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Chat Area => General Discussion Area => Topic started by: waspy on 15 June 2008, 07:14:26
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Zoe passed her driving test last monday, so took her down to Leicester to look at some cars (TAT). Came back only to find Rachel was in the middle of swapping bedrooms with Zoe (as Zoe has the larger room). The triple wardrobe was on the landing & she had attempted to get in the room alone instead of waiting for me to come back. She was on one, calling the robe stupid etc. I got the screw drivers, hammer & other various tools to which she said "what are you doing?" "I'm gona take it apart" R "it'll take ages" me "so will leaving it on the landing, cos it ain't gona go in like that". Proceeded to dismantle robe & then we both tipped it on it's back & in it went. Put it back together & now you'd never know i took it apart.
Why can't they just wait & be patient, because in the end the job gets done & gets done properly :y But they get all flustered, heated up & *then all goes arse upwards* ::) ::)
My question is to a 99% male forum, are they all the same :-/ :-/
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because we get something into our heads and it has to be done RIGHT NOW! cant wait WHY WAIT! ;D ;D ;D
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because we get something into our heads and it has to be done RIGHT NOW! cant wait WHY WAIT! ;D ;D ;D
Oh how very very true.... ::)
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because we get something into our heads and it has to be done RIGHT NOW! cant wait WHY WAIT! ;D ;D ;D
Clearly yet another piece for the genome study as this is obviously part of the chromosome error that creates a female.....
...along with
The anti logic gene
The extended memory for pointless things gene
The remember all minute errors in long term storage to hold against him gene
The must buy more shoes than are required for the average caterpillar gene
The indecisive gene
etc, etc, etc........
......cant live with em, cant shoot em.....
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Zoe passed her driving test last monday, so took her down to Leicester to look at some cars (TAT). Came back only to find Rachel was in the middle of swapping bedrooms with Zoe (as Zoe has the larger room). The triple wardrobe was on the landing & she had attempted to get in the room alone instead of waiting for me to come back. She was on one, calling the robe stupid etc. I got the screw drivers, hammer & other various tools to which she said "what are you doing?" "I'm gona take it apart" R "it'll take ages" me "so will leaving it on the landing, cos it ain't gona go in like that". Proceeded to dismantle robe & then we both tipped it on it's back & in it went. Put it back together & now you'd never know i took it apart.
Why can't they just wait & be patient, because in the end the job gets done & gets done properly :y But they get all flustered, heated up & *then all goes arse upwards* ::) ::)
My question is to a 99% male forum, are they all the same :-/ :-/
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[size=20]YES!!!![/size]
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i am so wired up wrong. :o
shoes only buy ones i need ( have more pairs of working boots then i do going out shoes)
i spend more money on my car then i do one clothes!
PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush! ;D ;D ;D
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this is actually a photo of the cat scan of my x wife ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Isn't there an old saying that is something along the lines of:
Patience; a virtue rarely found in men and never in women
Mind you, I am one of the worlds worst impulse buyers - especially when it comes to cars and gadgets.
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Isn't there an old saying that is something along the lines of:
Patience; a virtue rarely found in men and never in women
Mind you, I am one of the worlds worst impulse buyers - especially when it comes to cars and gadgets.
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Thats is so true :)
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Isn't there an old saying that is something along the lines of:
Patience; a virtue rarely found in men and never in women
Mind you, I am one of the worlds worst impulse buyers - especially when it comes to cars and gadgets.
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Thats is so true :)
Do you two know each other, then?
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No we dont james i was just agreeing with men likeing gadgets and cars
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No we dont james i was just agreeing with men likeing gadgets and cars
I see... that wasn't clear from your original post :y
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I am a terrible impulse buyer, I also have compulsive habits when shopping! The wife is the sensible one who applies logic. Role reversal at its best!!
I do all the domestic stuff, she does the diy! :y
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My only ever impulse buys are cars - I consider everything else carefully ;D
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My only ever impulse buys are cars - I consider everything else carefully ;D
I do consider things carfully...but also implusively!! Its a very expensive combination lol
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because we get something into our heads and it has to be done RIGHT NOW! cant wait WHY WAIT! ;D ;D ;D
Absolutely correct :y, and if you wait for a man to do it it may happen, but there again it probably won't until six months time, when he gets around to it! ::) ::) ::)
My principle has always been, and my mum drummed this into me, if you want something done and done properly do it yourself. That way we learn how to do many tasks and don't have to rely on other people who may well take advantage (garages, builders, Knik Fit, etc, etc.......! ;) :y
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Zoe passed her driving test last monday, so took her down to Leicester to look at some cars (TAT). Came back only to find Rachel was in the middle of swapping bedrooms with Zoe (as Zoe has the larger room). The triple wardrobe was on the landing & she had attempted to get in the room alone instead of waiting for me to come back. She was on one, calling the robe stupid etc. I got the screw drivers, hammer & other various tools to which she said "what are you doing?" "I'm gona take it apart" R "it'll take ages" me "so will leaving it on the landing, cos it ain't gona go in like that". Proceeded to dismantle robe & then we both tipped it on it's back & in it went. Put it back together & now you'd never know i took it apart.
Why can't they just wait & be patient, because in the end the job gets done & gets done properly :y But they get all flustered, heated up & *then all goes arse upwards* ::) ::)
My question is to a 99% male forum, are they all the same :-/ :-/
(http://i272.photobucket.com/albums/jj182/richierich1961/femalebrain.jpg)
[size=20]YES!!!![/size]
...and what is wrong with having that brain?! :-? :-? Is it wrong to worry about the number of shoes and clothes you have, loving nice things, ensuring things are clean, chatting to all the people we meet, being nuturing and friendly, thinking peaceful thoughts (Well most of the time!)etc, etc? :-? :-? ;D ;)
At least it doesn't consist of mainly cells that focus on sex...drink...sex...football....sex....cars....sex...sex....drink....sex, oh and some more sex! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;)
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
One daughter and two sons! The daughter is a got up and do girl, just like me! ;D ;)
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other way round for me i have two daughters and one son :)
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other way round for me i have two daughters and one son :)
Lovely Maria! Yes I really wanted two daughter's, but perhaps one was quite enough when she went through her teens!! ;D ;)
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
One daughter and two sons! The daughter is a got up and do girl, just like me! ;D ;)
A very good combination. I've two daughters & a son & i've never seen two people argue, fight & bitch to one another. Suger & spice & all things nice, not with what i've seen. Bloody horrible creatures to each other & sometimes their friends. Don't get me wrong they know the difference between right & wrong & are well mannered, just not to each other.
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
One daughter and two sons! The daughter is a got up and do girl, just like me! ;D ;)
A very good combination. I've two daughters & a son & i've never seen two people argue, fight & bitch to one another. Suger & spice & all things nice, not with what i've seen. Bloody horrible creatures to each other & sometimes their friends. Don't get me wrong they know the difference between right & wrong & are well mannered, just not to each other.
Sounds like my wife, her and her mother bitch , argue and shout at each other all the time......then she starts on me! :-[
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
One daughter and two sons! The daughter is a got up and do girl, just like me! ;D ;)
A very good combination. I've two daughters & a son & i've never seen two people argue, fight & bitch to one another. Suger & spice & all things nice, not with what i've seen. Bloody horrible creatures to each other & sometimes their friends. Don't get me wrong they know the difference between right & wrong & are well mannered, just not to each other.
I understand completely Waspy! ;D ;D I know that we must admit two daughters together can result in some right bitchy rows, as happended between my sister and I >:(. In the end I was rather pleased I ended up with one daugter and two lovely sons. :y :y I sympathise with you! ;)
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try living with 4 sisters :'( :'(
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Lizzie. Do you have any daughters??
One daughter and two sons! The daughter is a got up and do girl, just like me! ;D ;)
A very good combination. I've two daughters & a son & i've never seen two people argue, fight & bitch to one another. Suger & spice & all things nice, not with what i've seen. Bloody horrible creatures to each other & sometimes their friends. Don't get me wrong they know the difference between right & wrong & are well mannered, just not to each other.
Sounds like my wife, her and her mother bitch , argue and shout at each other all the time......then she starts on me! :-[
I do not envy you at all Mark! :'( :'( Get two females arguing together, and eventually we always turn on the people we really love! It is a weakness I'm afraid. :( :( That is one thing men do not do thank God! ;D :y
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try living with 4 sisters :'( :'(
Noooooo. Nasty :'( :'( :( :(
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can see why my dad worked away 4 nights a week and spent the other 3 in the pub, ;D ;D
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can see why my dad worked away 4 nights a week and spent the other 3 in the pub, ;D ;D
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D :y
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Thats why I have a garage with tools in it!
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Thats why I have a garage with tools in it!
I can't blame you Mark! :y Most men I think have shed's and garage's for that reason...especially when mothers and daughters are in close proximaty! ;D ;D ;D
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i signed up for facebook last week, following day i logged in half of my family was trying to be a friend, theve all came out the woodwork,sisters and nieces,nephews. havent spoken to any of them for about 3 yrs now, had to accept them in the end >:( >:(
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i signed up for facebook last week, following day i logged in half of my family was trying to be a friend, theve all came out the woodwork,sisters and nieces,nephews. havent spoken to any of them for about 3 yrs now, had to accept them in the end >:( >:(
Oh dear Richie! :o :o Now they know where you are available to them.......!!!! :( :(
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
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Thats why I have a garage with tools in it!
With the lock on the inside of the garage as well. ;D ;D
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i have a shed full of tools and so does jase! ;D ;D
we have never argued about anything while married dont see the point when things get heated i go clean he goes and makes something in the garden!
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I honestly think that generally (there are exceptions to the rule) Men & Women have differing priorities in how quickly things should be done or what is or is'nt important. The one thing i got told the most was "you just wo'nt argue" Mainly because i did'nt understand what we were supposed to be arguing about & the minute i detected a hint of bad mood or atmosphere i was off anywhere i could to avoid it!!! ::)
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because we get something into our heads and it has to be done RIGHT NOW! cant wait WHY WAIT! ;D ;D ;D
Clearly yet another piece for the genome study as this is obviously part of the chromosome error that creates a female.....
...along with
The anti logic gene
The extended memory for pointless things gene
The remember all minute errors in long term storage to hold against him gene
The must buy more shoes than are required for the average caterpillar gene
The indecisive gene
etc, etc, etc........
......cant live with em, cant shoot em.....
LOL, I think you've been hanging around me too much ;D
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try living with 4 sisters :'( :'(
I only have one, and can't live with her. Or even be in the same room ::)
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I honestly think that generally (there are exceptions to the rule) Men & Women have differing priorities in how quickly things should be done or what is or is'nt important. The one thing i got told the most was "you just wo'nt argue" Mainly because i did'nt understand what we were supposed to be arguing about & the minute i detected a hint of bad mood or atmosphere i was off anywhere i could to avoid it!!! ::)
;) Completely understandable; `life`s too short! :y
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
Women do seem to fall out for some reason. Do blokes ever fall out?
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we rarely rowed, all forgotton about 10 mins later. we still get on well, i go round in week,we both go shopping, we go out for day and she stays here sometimes with kids. but she was a nightmare getting ready to go out
so ladies never take offence in any thing i say as it is always said in jest.
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
:o Yikes!.....that`s one of those 'damned if you do, damned if you don`t' paradoxical-scenarios!....surely, one to test a Saint`s patience :'(
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
Women do seem to fall out for some reason. Do blokes ever fall out?
You still talk to me ;D
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
Women do seem to fall out for some reason. Do blokes ever fall out?
You still talk to me ;D
Who said that?
:P
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My mum and my wife have fallen out.
But I don't get too many arguments
Not sure which is worse? My mum and swmbo get on really well, it's the little chat's out of earshot that worry me, ask them what they are talking about?....................... Ohhh Nothing. ::) ::) ::)
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I am so impatient if i want something doing i need it doing now!!!
My last impulse buy was my MV6, not shoes or handbags!!
Jimbob won't argue which i find infuriating as i can argue the hind leg off a donkey!
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I am so impatient if i want something doing i need it doing now!!!
My last impulse buy was my MV6, not shoes or handbags!!
Jimbob won't argue which i find infuriating as i can argue the hind leg off a donkey!
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o it's not just guy ropes then ;D ;D ;D.......Only what I have heard. :y
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I am so impatient if i want something doing i need it doing now!!!
My last impulse buy was my MV6, not shoes or handbags!!
Jimbob won't argue which i find infuriating as i can argue the hind leg off a donkey!
Now why do I find that difficult to believe ;D
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Cos you know me as shy and retiring maybe! ;D ;D
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Cos you know me as shy and retiring maybe! ;D ;D
And your husband is a tea-total anorextic (I've spelt that wrong, haven't I)
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Failed Bulemic maybe!
Manage the Binge Eating bit, just dont bother with the throwing up afterwards ;D
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Your just jealous cos his belly is bigger than yours! ;D
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Your just jealous cos his belly is bigger than yours! ;D
I'm fast catching the master ;D
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Now that will take some doing!
;D ;D ;D
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Its TB's Stella and night nurse diet.......full calorie intake and lots of sleep!
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oh! is that how its done! ;D
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Its TB's Stella and night nurse diet.......full calorie intake and lots of sleep!
I was in a mess this morning after that cocktail last night. Thought it best I worked from home today....
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can see why my dad worked away 4 nights a week and spent the other 3 in the pub, ;D ;D
;D ;D
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Thats why I have a garage with tools in it!
I dont have garage but use friends instead and is far from home ;D
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I am so impatient if i want something doing i need it doing now!!!
My last impulse buy was my MV6, not shoes or handbags!!
Jimbob won't argue which i find infuriating as i can argue the hind leg off a donkey!
You are lucky LJay! Recently I had (yet again) a desire to buy two pairs of shoes on impulse in the morning (well my collection had fallen to below 32 pairs) and in the afternoon I bought my current car (as I have done with all others) on impulse in the afternoon!
Why I do this I don't really know, just always thoroughly enjoyed impulse and planned shopping, and love that feeling of satisfaction of buying something I didn't expect to obtain! ;D ;D ;D ;) I'm just tingling all over thinking about it now! 8-) 8-)
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Ok, so now i'm slightly regretting my impulse buy!
Annoyed that my new car has gone wrong while the old one is sat outside perfect!
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As should be engraved on the make-up mirror of every female .. (and probably applies to some blokes too .. )
"Act in haste ...... Repent at leisure "
;D ;D ;D
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Thanks for that pearl of wisdom, Entwood! I feel so much better now!
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Thanks for that pearl of wisdom, Entwood! I feel so much better now!
Glad to be of assistance ... :)
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I just look on it as bad luck is better than no luck!
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The extended memory for pointless things gene
The remember all minute errors in long term storage to hold against him gene
It's the ability to retrospectively edit reality that defeats me every time. If my wife was correct about all the things she reminds me about, either she has been married to someone else for the past 34 years or I must have Alzheimers. On those very rare occasions where I can establish a fact to bear out my recollection, the subject is changed rapidly.
Never have I heard the words "Oh yes, that's right" addressed to me by my wife. :(
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The extended memory for pointless things gene
The remember all minute errors in long term storage to hold against him gene
It's the ability to retrospectively edit reality that defeats me every time. If my wife was correct about all the things she reminds me about, either she has been married to someone else for the past 34 years or I must have Alzheimers. On those very rare occasions where I can establish a fact to bear out my recollection, the subject is changed rapidly.
Never have I heard the words "Oh yes, that's right" addressed to me by my wife. :(
It is because you as a man have one perspective on the issue, but we as women have the other , correct, perspective on it because we see the truth of the situation. ;D ;)
As Plato suggested we have been taken from the chains of ignorance that keep us bound to the cave floor, towards the light of truth and knowledge! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;) :y
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As Plato suggested we have been taken from the chains of ignorance that keep us bound to the cave floor, towards the light of truth and knowledge! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;) :y
Epistemology on a car forum! Long live The Republic!
Are we going to try Logic next?
Anyway, Socrates was just a drunken old homosexual paedophile. :) :) :)
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As Plato suggested we have been taken from the chains of ignorance that keep us bound to the cave floor, towards the light of truth and knowledge! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;) :y
Epistemology on a car forum! Long live The Republic!
Are we going to try Logic next?
Anyway, Socrates was just a drunken old homosexual paedophile. :) :) :)
We could do Jereyboam; of how The Republic's educational system would be a far superior logical replacement for the non-meritocracy one in place now.......but that is going too far for a car forum!
;D ;D ;D ;D ;)
Socrates however was just given 'bad press' in ancient Athens, just as many contemporary soles suffer from with the likes of the Daily Mirror and Sun! He really just wanted to impart his ideas of a new democratic system on the young boys of the city, like Plato! ;D ;D ;D ;)
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Socrates however was just given 'bad press' in ancient Athens
If death by hemlock is your idea of "just being given a bad press", I don't think I want to know your views on capital punishment. :(
So, it's Plato for education - Machiavelli for Prime Minister?
Mind you, he could probably learn a trick or two from Gordon :)
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Socrates however was just given 'bad press' in ancient Athens
If death by hemlock is your idea of "just being given a bad press", I don't think I want to know your views on capital punishment. :(
So, it's Plato for education - Machiavelli for Prime Minister?
Mind you, he could probably learn a trick or two from Gordon :)
Machiavelli has some sound ideas., but as PM?....oh hell! :o :o :o :o As you say though he could learn from GB, as he certainly appears to have some "ends" in mind with all that we are going through.....our demise?! :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
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Ok, so now i'm slightly regretting my impulse buy!
Annoyed that my new car has gone wrong while the old one is sat outside perfect!
:( :( :(
You broken it AGAIN! ;D ::) :P
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).
In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided. I get hurt, the wife wins. I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right. In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.
My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option. :(
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Ok, so now i'm slightly regretting my impulse buy!
Annoyed that my new car has gone wrong while the old one is sat outside perfect!
:( :( :(
every now and then you get a(http://i272.photobucket.com/albums/jj182/richierich1961/blondmoment.gif)us men understand and have sympathy, it cant be easy being a woman. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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No its not easy! We have to put up with you lot!
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Zoe passed her driving test last monday, so took her down to Leicester to look at some cars (TAT). Came back only to find Rachel was in the middle of swapping bedrooms with Zoe (as Zoe has the larger room). The triple wardrobe was on the landing & she had attempted to get in the room alone instead of waiting for me to come back. She was on one, calling the robe stupid etc. I got the screw drivers, hammer & other various tools to which she said "what are you doing?" "I'm gona take it apart" R "it'll take ages" me "so will leaving it on the landing, cos it ain't gona go in like that". Proceeded to dismantle robe & then we both tipped it on it's back & in it went. Put it back together & now you'd never know i took it apart.
Why can't they just wait & be patient, because in the end the job gets done & gets done properly :y But they get all flustered, heated up & *then all goes arse upwards* ::) ::)
My question is to a 99% male forum, are they all the same :-/ :-/
(http://i272.photobucket.com/albums/jj182/richierich1961/femalebrain.jpg)
[size=20]YES!!!![/size]
so true ;D :y
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if only life was such ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjxY9rZwNGU
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).
In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided. I get hurt, the wife wins. I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right. In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.
My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option. :(
My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage. :y
It is hardly just amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?. If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. ;) However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.
All the best Jereyboam :y
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).
In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided. I get hurt, the wife wins. I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right. In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.
My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option. :(
My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage. :y
It is hardly just amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?. If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. ;) However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.
All the best Jereyboam :y
My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70 :y :y :y
Still, the wife says im happy enough ;D
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).
In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided. I get hurt, the wife wins. I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right. In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.
My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option. :(
My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage. :y
It is hardly just amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?. If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. ;) However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.
All the best Jereyboam :y
My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70 :y :y :y
Still, the wife says im happy enough ;D
I wear the trousers in our house, when swmbo says it's ok ;D ;D ;D
Though more recently this seems to be when 7 yr old daughter says I can ::) ::) ::)
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I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
I must've missed a point somewhere!!!! :D
I have found that to be very true. If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate. If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!! :-* :-* :-* That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership :y :y
Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).
In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided. I get hurt, the wife wins. I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right. In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.
My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option. :(
My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage. :y
It is hardly just amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?. If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. ;) However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.
All the best Jereyboam :y
My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70 :y :y :y
Still, the wife says im happy enough ;D
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;)