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Title: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 28 July 2014, 10:16:27
i'm wondering if it's worth carrying on with life >:( >:(
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: Jusme on 28 July 2014, 10:49:13
Yes Ralf it is, perhaps time to take a drive to see Kev...? Chin up mate, keep yourself occupied.  ;)
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: Lagondanet on 28 July 2014, 10:50:06
I don't know you, but it is. Seek some help from your friends and family. Share the pain.
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 28 July 2014, 10:53:15
Yes Ralf it is, perhaps time to take a drive to see Kev...? Chin up mate, keep yourself occupied.  ;)
been trying to do that but didn't work :( :(
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: jimbobmccoy on 28 July 2014, 11:30:49
Yes. It is.
Accepting that it may not seem like there is at the moment, but believing it will get better from listening to people who have felt the same and got through it is what you have to do.
Unfortunately things will seem like there's no point for a while, but one day you'll realise that it hasn't seemed as bad that day, or it might only be for a period of a few hours, and that will help, and give you a bit of hope-eventually you'll be able to look back and realise that you can now see reasons for living and life is better than it currently feels.

Till then you just have to take faith in people telling you it will get better.

And remember that you are an important person in other peoples lives too, I'm sure you contribute to their happiness and 'reasons for living' and that you can give that to other people in varying ways is enough of a reason to keep living on it's own imho.
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: mickyboy123 on 28 July 2014, 11:34:14
cheer up its never as bad as it seems. trust me . :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: YZ250 on 28 July 2014, 11:47:25
Yes. It is.
Accepting that it may not seem like there is at the moment, but believing it will get better from listening to people who have felt the same and got through it is what you have to do.
Unfortunately things will seem like there's no point for a while, but one day you'll realise that it hasn't seemed as bad that day, or it might only be for a period of a few hours, and that will help, and give you a bit of hope-eventually you'll be able to look back and realise that you can now see reasons for living and life is better than it currently feels.

Till then you just have to take faith in people telling you it will get better.

And remember that you are an important person in other peoples lives too, I'm sure you contribute to their happiness and 'reasons for living' and that you can give that to other people in varying ways is enough of a reason to keep living on it's own imho.

Agreed.  :y

I'll try to be diplomatic here and my words are well intentioned.

Your wife's destiny was out of her hands but yours is well and truly in yours. I bet your wife would have given anything for a few more years, she would have been horrified by you even thinking such a thing.

An ex work colleague killed himself a couple of years back. If he could see the pain on his family's faces when they talk about him I'm sure he wouldn't have done it. He inflicted a worse pain on them than he was feeling, as they continually blame themselves for not spotting the signs.

I'm sure you would hate to be guilty of doing the same.  :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: flyer 0712 on 28 July 2014, 11:59:58
i know we all say...it will get better in time.....but matey trust me ..it.will.....you have family and friends that are there for you...what would your dear wife have said to you,....yes you miss her ,you always will,however you must have great,fond memories of yourself and your wife that will remain with you for ever.,try to bear with the grief that you and all of us must go through at sometimes in our lives,but my friend you can do this,we all have different ways of dealing with it..and you will find your inner strength to do this as well...
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: cleggy on 28 July 2014, 12:07:47
You have just made a big step forward by starting this thread. :y
Keep talking to friends and family and us motley lot on here. It will get better, a lot of us have lost loved ones and do know the feeling. Keep occupied and at the lowest ebb talk someone or us lot, you are worth it and so is life. :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: mickyboy123 on 28 July 2014, 13:18:55
if you need a break from your current surroundings you could allways come to sunny brighton and stay here for a week i live alone in a big house .just an idea your not alone in this world. lots of kind people just talk to them .wishing you all the best. :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: omega3000 on 28 July 2014, 13:43:52
It will get better , its early days yet mate . My sister passed away 4 years ago only 50 and it ripped us apart but although its been hard especially for parents we always have fond memories of when she was around  :) Its an old saying but time is a great healer , take up that offer to Brighton , it sounds just the thing you need  :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 28 July 2014, 17:30:27
i know we all say...it will get better in time.....but matey trust me ..it.will.....you have family and friends that are there for you...what would your dear wife have said to you,....yes you miss her ,you always will,however you must have great,fond memories of yourself and your wife that will remain with you for ever.,try to bear with the grief that you and all of us must go through at sometimes in our lives,but my friend you can do this,we all have different ways of dealing with it..and you will find your inner strength to do this as well...
it because i'm still not better from the hospital treatment i have had and not all clear yet so i'm stressed about that as well :'(
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: Jusme on 28 July 2014, 20:14:03
Ah! stress, wonderful invention for making things seem a lot worse than they need to be. I too am not in the best of health Ralf, but the days I can avoid stress, I suddenly realise I don't feel quite as bad... Brighton sounds O.K. but put a metal plate down the back of your strides...  ;)
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 28 July 2014, 20:57:47
Ah! stress, wonderful invention for making things seem a lot worse than they need to be. I too am not in the best of health Ralf, but the days I can avoid stress, I suddenly realise I don't feel quite as bad... Brighton sounds O.K. but put a metal plate down the back of your strides...  ;)
;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: mickyboy123 on 28 July 2014, 21:48:55
hey jusme, hope your not suggesting im that way inclined   >:(not all the time there are women on this earth  :y. brighton does have a rep tho lol.
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: PhilRich on 28 July 2014, 21:56:06
Ah! stress, wonderful invention for making things seem a lot worse than they need to be. I too am not in the best of health Ralf, but the days I can avoid stress, I suddenly realise I don't feel quite as bad... Brighton sounds O.K. but put a metal plate down the back of your strides...  ;)
;D ;D ;D
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Now THAT is about the best medicine for ALL ills Ralf & God Bless the person who put that smile on your face & lifted your spirits even for a short while :y
All the Best Wishes & Positive Platitudes in the world will not cure your ills Ralf, only you can do that, by thinking of all the good times you & your wife shared together. Laugh a little, cry a lot and remember her with Love matey. Life is hard now, but you can be harder and stronger and come out the other end a stronger, better man. Best Wishes to you bigyin :-*
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: 05omegav6 on 28 July 2014, 22:21:36
Very well put Phil :y

You would do well to heed those words BY :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 28 July 2014, 22:24:37
at the moment cant travel to far as i got this stupid leg bag on . waiting for it to be taken out just waiting for the stupid hospial to call me back in >:( >:(
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: Jusme on 28 July 2014, 23:41:33
at the moment cant travel to far as i got this stupid leg bag on Lucky you Ralf, just like a horse, 'a licence to pee in the street'.. :-[ And what was the nurse like who fitted the business end??  :y  Answer to mickeyboy. No I Wasn't intimating anything against you, my second son also lives there, his opinion.... 'Love it with  all the gay blokes living here, means a lot more women for me'....  :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 29 July 2014, 11:39:10
at the moment cant travel to far as i got this stupid leg bag on Lucky you Ralf, just like a horse, 'a licence to pee in the street'.. :-[ And what was the nurse like who fitted the business end??  :y  Answer to mickeyboy. No I Wasn't intimating anything against you, my second son also lives there, his opinion.... 'Love it with  all the gay blokes living here, means a lot more women for me'....  :y
its anoying as hell  >:(
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: bored bigyin54 on 03 August 2014, 17:55:17
Yes Ralf it is, perhaps time to take a drive to see Kev...? Chin up mate, keep yourself occupied.  ;)
kev has been talkin me out off doing something silly . been telling me off all the time . good old kevin  :y :y
Title: Re: whats the worth
Post by: jimbobmccoy on 03 August 2014, 23:43:37
I have been thinking about this thread over the past few days and several times nearly started a new one to send how you were doing.

It's good to hear you have someone who can help you see the point in things at the moment, or at least keep you from doing, by your own admittance, something silly.

Once thoughts of that nature enter your head they are insidious and pervasive, popping up at many points in the day, and may well stay with you for a long time, reappearing after long breaks when things take a bleak turn.

It's important to resist them and have a rational rebuttal to them-know they are wrong-know you are wanted on this earth-know there is a worth to life.
Make sure you recognise the mindset that comes with them, and have a plan in place of dealing with it.
It's often as simple as when you have made a decision to do something maybe not so sensible, before you act on it, you HAVE to call someone to get a second opinion.
In your case Kev seems the person to call, so make sure you do. Often breaking the chain of thought, and talking things through with another human will make things seem a bit better and less lonely, and prevent any rash decisions.

Do not expect this to be a short process, but acknowledging and accepting that is half the battle.

Realise if strangers on an Internet forum want you to stick around, that life and it's many participants want your company, and that you are not alone, and there is worth in it all.

Times are tough now, they may be for a while, but you WILL get through it