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Title: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Miggy24 on 03 January 2009, 20:37:38
Well as it says.I was out in town today when i bumped in to my ex gf best friend.I said to her no emma then as in my ex and she said oh u dont know do you her family had been trying to get hold of you.7 weeks ago she had a fit in the bath and died so its it me big time as we went thou think and thin together.Been taking things out on the gf i have now since iv found out about it whish i shouldnt i know.Do you think i should ring her mum up or just leave it as it is and carry on with life
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: waspy on 03 January 2009, 20:59:06
Oh crap mate, what a situation to be in. Only you know the relationship you have/had with her parents & so it's your call.
If it was me i would make a personal call & not phone.
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: fife_omega_v6 on 03 January 2009, 21:02:25
Sorry to hear that mate, i would go with the last reply 100% :-/
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Miggy24 on 03 January 2009, 21:09:04
yeah i may just do that
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Mr Skrunts on 03 January 2009, 21:13:54
Got to agree with CD Pete, It's hard to know what to do for the best either way.
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Marie on 03 January 2009, 21:15:10
as the boys have said its completely your call.

it also depends on your relationship with them. i personally would leave it as its been 7 wks.

you should explain  to your new gf whats going on and she might be understanding about your moods. try not to take it out on her but i am sure she will understand.

oh and i am sorry to hear about your situation and hope it al works out for the best.
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Miggy24 on 03 January 2009, 21:23:46
My new gf knows about whats happend and knows why im taking it out on her.Maybe thinking that i might go to her grave and pay my repect instead of going to the family home
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: amigov6 on 03 January 2009, 21:32:40
As already said you know how the relationship went so whether it's appropriate to contact her family with your sympathies. Also consider how your got on with her parents/siblings. despite being happily single now i'm still speaking terms with my ex gf's & their families, nothing bad ever happened.It must be difficult for you. Despite not wanting any of them back i'd be upset if something like this happened to any of them, that's a rough trot & must've been a shock to hear.

  Best of luck, Guy.
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Miggy24 on 03 January 2009, 21:41:01
yeah sure is and the sadest thing about it is that she was only 21
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Taxi_Driver on 03 January 2009, 21:44:31
Sorry to hear  :(
Personally tho from what you have said, i would agree with Pete.....or at least call.....as they have been trying to contact you.....phone call might be easier for you if you carnt face a personal visit....but i think you should try at least one of the options.....but your call......good luck  :)
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: amigov6 on 03 January 2009, 21:59:17
Obviously her family think well of you if they've tried to contact you, so try to respond. If you can't bring yourself to visit or phone (which would be best if you can) at least send an expensive tastefull card & a bouquet to her parents with a letter explaining your doubts & your phone no if they don't have it, that gives them the option to reply, it won't be long before the funeral & you should pay your respects if the family are ok with it. Hard at the time but you'll be glad you did.
   Lastly, try not to take it out on your new girlfriend, it's probably hard for her to deal with from her side of things, if she's supporting you in this then stand by her, she's a good'un! :y
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: Miggy24 on 03 January 2009, 22:02:35
the funeral has already been done otherwise i would of gone to it.Yeah ur right mate the new gf is a good un
Title: Re: Found out some bad new about an ex gf of mine
Post by: amigov6 on 03 January 2009, 22:47:25
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the funeral has already been done otherwise i would of gone to it.Yeah ur right mate the new gf is a good un
Time to concentrate on life with her now then. Maybe still send a sympathies card to her family.
    Best of luck, Guy.