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Title: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:12:17
Guys and girls can I ask, if your mrs. got a text message reading (can't remember all of it) i'm away until friday night but will be back then so we can catch up then Sweet Lips x x

Now this isn't me being insecure but am I being paranoid or does this sound like someone who may be cheating this has been going round and round my head for the past 5 hours and i'm in total mood mode at the minute. My son and mrs. can tell summin' is wrong and this is it. Now I wouldn't usually ask on a public forum but I got no-one else to ask TBH.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:16:03
Just got another saying Trying to work out your answer  :-?
I don't want to ask her as it may be something totally simple but it don't sound like it
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:23:50
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Just got another saying Trying to work out your answer  :-?
I don't want to ask her as it may be something totally simple but it don't sound like it

do you even know who the text messages are from
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:25:40
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Just got another saying Trying to work out your answer  :-?
I don't want to ask her as it may be something totally simple but it don't sound like it

do you even know who the text messages are from
Yeah it's not a women.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:29:32
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Just got another saying Trying to work out your answer  :-?
I don't want to ask her as it may be something totally simple but it don't sound like it

do you even know who the text messages are from
Yeah it's not a women.

it does seem like she may be cheating but can't say for sure

do you have any access to the message that are being sent to this bloke
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Andyb on 04 June 2009, 19:35:15
2 things mate could it be a wrong number and her reply was not what he was expecting thus the second text
ask her whats it was about
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:35:49
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Just got another saying Trying to work out your answer  :-?
I don't want to ask her as it may be something totally simple but it don't sound like it

do you even know who the text messages are from
Yeah it's not a women.

it does seem like she may be cheating but can't say for sure

do you have any access to the message that are being sent to this bloke
Not really it's on her phone and I don't want her to see me looking and the one time I did look after all messages were deleted. See thing is I don't want to do nothing to the bloke until I know for sure. Nearly 20 fu*king years
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:36:31
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2 things mate could it be a wrong number and her reply was not what he was expecting thus the second text
ask her whats it was about

may be just a thing to either keep an eye on
or even have a sitdown and a chat

is there any sort of atmosphere in the house at all
is she being really secretive
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:36:36
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2 things mate could it be a wrong number and her reply was not what he was expecting thus the second text
ask her whats it was about
Definatley not the wrong number.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:38:13
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2 things mate could it be a wrong number and her reply was not what he was expecting thus the second text
ask her whats it was about

may be just a thing to either keep an eye on
or even have a sitdown and a chat

is there any sort of atmosphere in the house at all
is she being really secretive
Now i'll fully and totally hold my hands up to the fact that i'm insecure. But i'm not being funny this doesn't seem right.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Plomien on 04 June 2009, 19:40:39
Confront her or make a comment of so what are you doing friday sweet lips....
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:41:39
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2 things mate could it be a wrong number and her reply was not what he was expecting thus the second text
ask her whats it was about

may be just a thing to either keep an eye on
or even have a sitdown and a chat

is there any sort of atmosphere in the house at all
is she being really secretive
Now i'll fully and totally hold my hands up to the fact that i'm insecure. But i'm not being funny this doesn't seem right.

it may be a thing that you may have to sit down and maybe just ask her
or you may need to try and get acces to her phone when she is in the bath or shower etc

you don't wanna get guns drawn yet mate
it might be nothing
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Richie London on 04 June 2009, 19:44:09
well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:44:17
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Confront her or make a comment of so what are you doing friday sweet lips....
Thats what I was thinking, can't say nothing yet as her sister is down. See there is no tension but she is such a good liar and totally and honestly this wouldn't be the 1st time.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:45:43
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:46:23
you may need to either confront her
or even get her mobile when she is in the shower or bath
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Richie London on 04 June 2009, 19:47:15
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 19:53:03
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
I tell you something mate if I find this is true this'll be the first thing and he seriously won't get it lightly either!! God i'm going loopy in my head
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 19:57:31
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
I tell you something mate if I find this is true this'll be the first thing and he seriously won't get it lightly either!! God i'm going loopy in my head

carm down mate
you need to know for sure
ask her mate or try and get her phone :y
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Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:01:11
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
I tell you something mate if I find this is true this'll be the first thing and he seriously won't get it lightly either!! God i'm going loopy in my head

carm down mate
you need to know for sure
ask her mate or try and get her phone :y
I'll try and get it tonight see the thing is my son saw it first and told me then I saw it after he said. And I can tell he already thinks there is something going on and I don't want him to feel like sh1t he's 15 so he understands now he said he'd ask her but like I said to him it's probably nothing and it's no for him to do either.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:04:03
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
I tell you something mate if I find this is true this'll be the first thing and he seriously won't get it lightly either!! God i'm going loopy in my head

carm down mate
you need to know for sure
ask her mate or try and get her phone :y
I'll try and get it tonight see the thing is my son saw it first and told me then I saw it after he said. And I can tell he already thinks there is something going on and I don't want him to feel like sh1t.

get the phone mate when you can
it might be a case of that this bloke wants more than a friendship with your mrs and your mrs had told him to break off

untill you see the sent messages mate you need to keep the guns in your pockets :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:08:34
See now I culd get my son to play the copter game on her phone and look but I really don't want him involved, angry or upset.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 04 June 2009, 20:09:30
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well i would copy the number, ring it and withhold my number. then say sorry wrong number. you may even know who it is, then you can confront her
I know who it is, a bloke called Tim Hughes and i'll easily find out where he is I might get the number when I can and ring him.

id confront him to his face, your know if hes lying, then batter the break out of him
I tell you something mate if I find this is true this'll be the first thing and he seriously won't get it lightly either!! God i'm going loopy in my head

carm down mate
you need to know for sure
ask her mate or try and get her phone :y
I'll try and get it tonight see the thing is my son saw it first and told me then I saw it after he said. And I can tell he already thinks there is something going on and I don't want him to feel like sh1t.

get the phone mate when you can
it might be a case of that this bloke wants more than a friendship with your mrs and your mrs had told him to break off

untill you see the sent messages mate you need to keep the guns in your pockets :y

Well, yes, this is Ashford!! ::) ::) :D :D ;)

There is some right two timing bastards around here! >:( >:(

Your wife LSG could well be being pestered by this chap, as I have found is common 'around town', and is scarred about what you will do if you find out  :( :( :(


Don't recognise that chaps name you quoted though! :-X :-X
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:11:07
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See now I culd get my son to play the copter game on her phone and look but I really don't want him involved, angry or upset.

that is an idea
but as you said you don't really want to get him involved

just hold fire mate and wait till you can get the phone
i know its hard mate, just grit your teeth and wait
ive been there in your situation with my ex
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:14:11
Yeah, Lizzie he used to work in B&Q with her his daughter isn't very old either. I remember actually we were up town once and he kissed her on the lips and shook my hand and I thought at the time he looked at me a funny way. But then again this is really travelling round my head now. And my son is getting p1ssed off badly he's all fidgity and stuff
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:17:52
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Yeah, Lizzie he used to work in B&Q with her his daughter isn't very old either. I remember actually we were up town once and he kissed her on the lips and shook my hand and I thought at the time he looked at me a funny way. But then again this is really travelling round my head now. And my son is getting p1ssed off badly he's all fidgity and stuff

does sound like he is trying to get closer to your mrs
might be worth like i said looking on her phone
and then if it turns out he is after your mrs then go and kick 10 tons out of him
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Tommy on 04 June 2009, 20:24:15
Playing devil's advocate here

It's very easy to jump to conclusions when you only see one side of the conversation. He may be chatting her up and your wife has given him the brush off. On the other hand she may have given him signals previously thinking it was harmless flirting and he's taken it too far now.
She may be craving a little male attention if you have been together for 20 years. Women do like to think they are still attractive.
If you have been together that long I would sit down with her, explain how you came to read the text and the fact you can't get it out of your head.
You should know her after 20 years so watch her reaction
Insecurity can play very hurtful tricks on you to the stage where you convince yourself it's the worst case
Talk to her mate
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:24:32
Funnily enough the messages are deleted  :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: webby23 on 04 June 2009, 20:29:08
Seems like you have answered you own question mate sadly.

To me it appears dodgy as hell whats been going on here, and i wish you the best of luck mate.

One thing i did when I had this with an ex (yrs ago) was to get a pay and go sim and start texting her number asking her out on a date and things like that, and she how she reacts to that too.........

 :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:33:00
Yeah, she seems fine laughing joking with her sister little does she know my son is really angry well she does know cos' he's been off with her all night.
God mine head is banging
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:34:18
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Yeah, she seems fine laughing joking with her sister little does she know my son is really angry well she does know cos' he's been off with her all night.
God mine head is banging

mite be time to get your son to play that game on her phone ;) ;)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 04 June 2009, 20:39:53
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Funnily enough the messages are deleted  :-/


That may very well mean LSG that she is embarrased and fed up of his attention! :( :(

Would you walk around with those texts on your phone knowing how you could perceive the situation? :-? :-?

Do not jump to conclusions yet; get proof. ;)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:40:09
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Yeah, she seems fine laughing joking with her sister little does she know my son is really angry well she does know cos' he's been off with her all night.
God mine head is banging

mite be time to get your son to play that game on her phone ;) ;)
He did whilst I was in the toilet, looked and every message from that Tim moosh was gone although others from my son and me were in there.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: cem_devecioglu on 04 June 2009, 20:43:49
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Playing devil's advocate here

It's very easy to jump to conclusions when you only see one side of the conversation. He may be chatting her up and your wife has given him the brush off. On the other hand she may have given him signals previously thinking it was harmless flirting and he's taken it too far now.
She may be craving a little male attention if you have been together for 20 years. Women do like to think they are still attractive.
If you have been together that long I would sit down with her, explain how you came to read the text and the fact you can't get it out of your head.
You should know her after 20 years so watch her reaction
Insecurity can play very hurtful tricks on you to the stage where you convince yourself it's the worst case
Talk to her mate

Agreed mostly except talking to her..

if you tell her you know the things and ask whats happening
1. will be very hard to catch the reality later..(if there's something)
2.things can go outside your control and you may force her to take  quick decision..
3.You wont have any time to think in detail..

better first do some investigation..and be sure of the things.. :(


Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:43:54
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Yeah, she seems fine laughing joking with her sister little does she know my son is really angry well she does know cos' he's been off with her all night.
God mine head is banging

mite be time to get your son to play that game on her phone ;) ;)
He did whilst I was in the toilet, looked and every message from that Tim moosh was gone although others from my son and me were in there.

still dont mean she is cheating mate
lok at what lizzie has just said
you may need to find the moment and ask her if he is bothering her
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Robski on 04 June 2009, 20:45:53
Sympathy for you mate,it is sounding a bit suspect though,get some good solid evidence first and then kick his nuts in.Good luck
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:46:12
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Yeah, she seems fine laughing joking with her sister little does she know my son is really angry well she does know cos' he's been off with her all night.
God mine head is banging

mite be time to get your son to play that game on her phone ;) ;)
He did whilst I was in the toilet, looked and every message from that Tim moosh was gone although others from my son and me were in there.

still dont mean she is cheating mate
lok at what lizzie has just said
you may need to find the moment and ask her if he is bothering her
Yeah I suppose, my son keeps saying i'll say I saw them and see what she says to me. He should be an investigator he can always tell when someone is lieing.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 04 June 2009, 20:49:07
i just hope everything turns out ok for you mate and it is the fact that he is trying it on with your mrs
dark alley and a nice bat still comes to mind

you may need to just have a chat to your mrs just to make sure everything is ok
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 04 June 2009, 20:53:01
Remember LSG, women do like the flattery that is implied by attention from the male species, but sometimes the chap gets carried away with himself and pester us with notes, text messages, phone calls, or personal contact. :o :o :o

That is when it becomes embarrasing and threatening to the real love of our lives, and we have to rudely push it away.  Please check that  this is not so in your wife's case before you 'go for her'! :( :(
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:53:29
O yeah most defiantley, if anything is going on though I'll totally f*ck him and his life up.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:55:50
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Remember LSG, women do like the flattery that is implied by attention from the male species, but sometimes the chap gets carried away with himself and pester us with notes, text messages, phone calls, or personal contact. :o :o :o

That is when it becomes embarrasing and threatening to the real love of our lives, and we have to rudely push it away.  Please check that  this is not so in your wife's case before you 'go for her'! :( :(
I'm gonna ask her when her sister has gone, can't be doing with this going round my head all night, when i'm at work and stuff my son is busting a gut not to say anything too.
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Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 04 June 2009, 20:57:41
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Remember LSG, women do like the flattery that is implied by attention from the male species, but sometimes the chap gets carried away with himself and pester us with notes, text messages, phone calls, or personal contact. :o :o :o

That is when it becomes embarrasing and threatening to the real love of our lives, and we have to rudely push it away.  Please check that  this is not so in your wife's case before you 'go for her'! :( :(
I'm gonna ask her when her sister has gone, can't be doing with this going round my head all night, when i'm at work and stuff my son is busting a gut not to say anything too.


Good, that is sensible and will hopefully give you the answer, one way or another, that you want! ;) ;)
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Post by: cem_devecioglu on 04 June 2009, 20:58:55
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O yeah most defiantley, if anything is going on though I'll totally f*ck him and his life up.

please dont do anything before you get the picture..

and as I have witnessed and lived similiar things in the past please evaluate every possible consequences before having any action.. :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:59:07
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Remember LSG, women do like the flattery that is implied by attention from the male species, but sometimes the chap gets carried away with himself and pester us with notes, text messages, phone calls, or personal contact. :o :o :o

That is when it becomes embarrasing and threatening to the real love of our lives, and we have to rudely push it away.  Please check that  this is not so in your wife's case before you 'go for her'! :( :(
I'm gonna ask her when her sister has gone, can't be doing with this going round my head all night, when i'm at work and stuff my son is busting a gut not to say anything too.


Good, that is sensible and will hopefully give you the answer, one way or another, that you want! ;) ;)
Cheers  :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 20:59:58
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O yeah most defiantley, if anything is going on though I'll totally f*ck him and his life up.

please dont do anything before you get the picture..

and as I have witnessed and lived similiar things in the past please evaluate every possible consequences before having any action.. :-/
O yeah mate defiantley will, if he's pestering her though he'll get problems too.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Kevin Wood on 04 June 2009, 21:54:57
Much as you'll probably want to sort this out here and now, you'd be better off giving it a little time IMHO.

Put yourself in your wife's shoes. There probably is an innocent explanation, or this attention is unsolicited and unwanted. Think how you'd feel if confronted in such a way, suggesting that you're not trusted.

Easy to say when you're not in the situation, I know, but I've seen a mate's perfectly good marriage go down the toilet through exactly the same chain of events when neither party was out of place. Just a couple of silly text messages, a load of misunderstandings followed by doubt, suspicion, anger and mistrust.

I say cool it for a day or two if you can, see if anything else raises your suspicions in the meanwhile and if and when you do broach the subject with your wife, tread very carefully and be as tactful as you can.

Kevin
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:21:39
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Much as you'll probably want to sort this out here and now, you'd be better off giving it a little time IMHO.

Put yourself in your wife's shoes. There probably is an innocent explanation, or this attention is unsolicited and unwanted. Think how you'd feel if confronted in such a way, suggesting that you're not trusted.

Easy to say when you're not in the situation, I know, but I've seen a mate's perfectly good marriage go down the toilet through exactly the same chain of events when neither party was out of place. Just a couple of silly text messages, a load of misunderstandings followed by doubt, suspicion, anger and mistrust.

I say cool it for a day or two if you can, see if anything else raises your suspicions in the meanwhile and if and when you do broach the subject with your wife, tread very carefully and be as tactful as you can.

Kevin
There was one message from tuesday that said starting with my mrs. Ignorant Bas*ard.
His reply I was just going to turn round and see you where'd you go?
More and more things are making want to find this bloke and just  continuously punch him in the face.
And about here being confronted this wouldn't be the first time the 3rd actually.
Still what you say is right  :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: webby23 on 04 June 2009, 22:25:31
LSG, she is cheating mate, I have seen it all before.

Just got to think how to best deal with it to avoid destroying not only each other, but everyone else around you.

Its impossible to move forward with this playing on your mind so try and think of the best way of tackling it.

I hope I am totally wrong and its all innocent, but it sounds like she is covering up to me.

Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:29:42
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LSG, she is cheating mate, I have seen it all before.

Just got to think how to best deal with it to avoid destroying not only each other, but everyone else around you.

Its impossible to move forward with this playing on your mind so try and think of the best way of tackling it.

I hope I am totally wrong and its all innocent, but it sounds like she is covering up to me.

Exactly my thoughts!!!!
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:32:33
Well about 20 mins and all will be revealed her sister is leaving in a minute or 10.
O and another thing earlier on I know one text was from him and she said she had a text from sis-in law which she did but it went off twice this was for the original text, my son said who's that at this point this is when he had first looked she said o it's Lynne when she had one from him and another so son said it went off twice she said o yeah thats because I didn't read it, it reminds me that w*nker
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: webby23 on 04 June 2009, 22:33:54
And let me know if you need a new wife, I have got one going spare here.........

 :y
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Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:35:38
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And let me know if you need a new wife, I have got one going spare here.........

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Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Richie London on 04 June 2009, 22:38:41
he cant be pestering her as she would obviously be upset or stressed and tell you in my opinion.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:39:51
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he cant be pestering her as she would obviously be upset or stressed and tell you in my opinion.
If her sister would leave  >:(
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Richie London on 04 June 2009, 22:41:37
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he cant be pestering her as she would obviously be upset or stressed and tell you in my opinion.
If her sister would leave  >:(

go and open the front door for her  ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:42:51
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he cant be pestering her as she would obviously be upset or stressed and tell you in my opinion.
If her sister would leave  >:(

go and open the front door for her  ;D ;D ;D
I plucked up all this courage and it's gradually going down and down and down.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: webby23 on 04 June 2009, 22:45:04
Keep us all up to date on it buddy.

We will be waiting up to find out how it has gone, and seriously, best of luck. I hope you are going to be proven wrong, in the nicest way and this has all been a misunderstanding.

Take it easy.

 :y
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Post by: Del Boy on 04 June 2009, 22:46:53
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Keep us all up to date on it buddy.

We will be waiting up to find out how it has gone, and seriously, best of luck. I hope you are going to be proven wrong, in the nicest way and this has all been a misunderstanding.

Take it easy.

 :y
Yeah she's going as we speak.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Richie London on 04 June 2009, 22:53:48
well im off to bed but will be viewing tomorrow when i get up. hope everything turns out ok mate. keep cool and dont lose yer temper. good luck
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: albitz on 04 June 2009, 22:59:32
Personally I wouldnt take notice of all the advice to give the bloke a kicking,IF something is going on its not just his fault ,it takes 2 to tango,and although it hurts the male pride more than just about anything else,if this is the 3rd time its happened then she cant possibly be worth getting locked up for,which is probably what will happen if you give him a kicking. ;)
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Post by: crazyjoetavola on 04 June 2009, 23:08:18
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Personally I wouldnt take notice of all the advice to give the bloke a kicking,if something is going on its not just his fault ,it takes 2 to tango,and although it hurts the male pride more than just about anything else,if this is the 3rd time its happened then she cant possibly be worth getting locked up for,which is probably what will happen if you give him a kicking. ;)


Sound words, Albs :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Entwood on 04 June 2009, 23:08:51
You might not like this point of view ... sorry   :(

But IMHO be very careful to keep an open mind .....  reading your views it seems to me you've already made up your mind....

If you go in guns blazing with accusations then she gets upset and refuses to answer ... you'll assume she's guilty as hell ..... she'll get defensive .. so you'll think she's hiding something .... 

All will lead to a downwards spiral from which you'll have major problems recovering.

This is a problem that needs communication .. which is not just the ability to speak .. but the ability to listen as well ... on both sides.

I wish you luck .. I think you are both going to need it, regardless of what is .. or is not ... going on...... there is far too much mistrust in this relationship IMHO.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Turk on 05 June 2009, 00:38:17
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Personally I wouldnt take notice of all the advice to give the bloke a kicking,IF something is going on its not just his fault ,it takes 2 to tango,and although it hurts the male pride more than just about anything else,if this is the 3rd time its happened then she cant possibly be worth getting locked up for,which is probably what will happen if you give him a kicking. ;)

Yep, as they say "there's more than one way to skin a cat".
Hopefully all is well, but if not, you don't need to get yourself in trouble with the law. 
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Martin_1962 on 05 June 2009, 08:29:03
If he is pestering or having an affair - he is in the wrong.

Dark Alley, Baseball bat and covered face time
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: miggy on 05 June 2009, 12:50:46
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Guys and girls can I ask, if your mrs. got a text message reading (can't remember all of it) i'm away until friday night but will be back then so we can catch up then Sweet Lips x x

Now this isn't me being insecure but am I being paranoid or does this sound like someone who may be cheating this has been going round and round my head for the past 5 hours and i'm in total mood mode at the minute. My son and mrs. can tell summin' is wrong and this is it. Now I wouldn't usually ask on a public forum but I got no-one else to ask TBH.

Dont muck around mate, if it is ripping you up you MUST let her know and get it cleared up. These things tend to fester if you let it go without knowing. Take it from someone who knows.
 :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 05 June 2009, 16:06:41
This man is known locally by my contacts LSG, but is just known as a "very quiet" individual who has been around.  Not known as a problem though. ;) ;)

As a woman though I try to avoid quiet types, they can be trouble. So can quiet woman comes to think about it! ::) ::);) ;)

A careful approach LSG is still my advice. There are always two sides to any story. ;) ;)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: crazyjoetavola on 05 June 2009, 16:24:55
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This man is known locally by my contacts LSG, but is just known as a "very quiet" individual who has been around.  Not known as a problem though. ;) ;)

As a woman though I try to avoid quiet types, they can be trouble. So can quiet woman comes to think about it! ::) ::);) ;)

A careful approach LSG is still my advice. There are always two sides to any story. ;) ;)


That's right Ms Zoom, dialogue is the only answer - any other decision made in the heat of the moment, without due consideration, usually results in an unpleasant situation becoming worse - just when sound judgement is required.

I have always found when encountering problems that it's easier to establish the nature of the problem, by asking if there really is one, and then taking appropriate steps to rectify it in a logical and sensible way.


Talk is the way forward - the only way :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 05 June 2009, 16:27:57
has anyone herd off lsg today
is he ok :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: ScottieMV6 on 05 June 2009, 16:35:46
He hasn't been online today.

Hope he has got everything sorted.  :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 05 June 2009, 16:37:12
has anyone got his number that can give him a ring to make sure he is ok and not sat in the back of his mig
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Tommy on 05 June 2009, 16:42:35
At a guess they didn't have a blazing row leaving him sitting downstairs alone as he would have come online.
Hopefully it was nothing and taken out of proportion.
Whatever, I'm sure that he'll be online when he's ready
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: albitz on 05 June 2009, 18:05:02
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If he is pestering or having an affair - he is in the wrong.

Dark Alley, Baseball bat and covered face time

FFS. ::)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 13:33:50
Well nothing is going on, my son fund out that he is a chippy, and wanted to talk to her about stuff at work etc.
I was on my way round to his house when I found this out from my son but he explained, still don't like the idea of all the sweet lips stuff and can't really understand why the still trying to make your mind up was on there but nothing seems to dodgy at the mo. :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: nick v6 on 06 June 2009, 13:36:20
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Well nothing is going on, my son fund out that he is a chippy, and wanted to talk to her about stuff at work etc.
I was on my way round to his house when I found this out from my son but he explained, still don't like the idea of all the sweet lips stuff and can't really understand why the still trying to make your mind up was on there but nothing seems to dodgy at the mo. :y

glad all is ok mate
still think a little warning may be on the books :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 13:38:59
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Well nothing is going on, my son fund out that he is a chippy, and wanted to talk to her about stuff at work etc.
I was on my way round to his house when I found this out from my son but he explained, still don't like the idea of all the sweet lips stuff and can't really understand why the still trying to make your mind up was on there but nothing seems to dodgy at the mo. :y

glad all is ok mate
still think a little warning may be on the books :y
Yeah thats what I was thinking too  :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 06 June 2009, 13:40:09
That is great news LSG! :y

There is always two sides to a story and it is all too easy to shoot off in all directions with the wrong perceptions of what is happening. ::) ::) ::)

If you have a strong marriage then little things don't bother you, but I would certainly dissuade the guy from using rather provocative language in texts or in speech if that is the case as I suspect it is.

Once again though, glad all is ok! 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 13:41:33
Cheers LZ  :)
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: webby23 on 06 June 2009, 14:53:45
Glad its all working out ok mate, and as Lizzie says, the "sweet lips" thing still needs addressing cos thats not normal behaviour between a tradesman and a customer........

Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 17:08:15
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Glad its all working out ok mate, and as Lizzie says, the "sweet lips" thing still needs addressing cos thats not normal behaviour between a tradesman and a customer........

He used to work with her too, but yeah words will be had.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Robski on 06 June 2009, 17:11:40
MMMMM..............think I would still be a bit suspect,why delete messages if nothing to hide....... :-/ :-/
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Robski on 06 June 2009, 17:14:40
At the end of the day theres only you and your missus who know the real strength of your relationship,hope everything works out for you both :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Gareth Lewis on 06 June 2009, 17:44:12
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MMMMM..............think I would still be a bit suspect,why delete messages if nothing to hide....... :-/ :-/

embarassment?
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Martin_1962 on 06 June 2009, 17:49:10
Phew :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Robski on 06 June 2009, 17:57:31
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MMMMM..............think I would still be a bit suspect,why delete messages if nothing to hide....... :-/ :-/

embarassment?
Yeah but does make it look a bit sus
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 18:17:12
Indeed it does and thats a fair point that I never thought of.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: omegod on 06 June 2009, 18:26:11
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MMMMM..............think I would still be a bit suspect,why delete messages if nothing to hide....... :-/ :-/



I sympathise that LSG has a bit of a problem but I think it's time people realise this is someones life here and not an episode of Coronation Street, you know real kids and a real risk of going down if he tw*ts someone! Sorry for jumping in with a rant but reading this through from the start shows some worrying advice that is most likely going to worsen the situation. He seems satisfied with things now so best of luck to him.
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 18:35:46
Maybe because if I had seen went mental and stuff ?
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Robski on 06 June 2009, 18:44:12
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MMMMM..............think I would still be a bit suspect,why delete messages if nothing to hide....... :-/ :-/



I sympathise that LSG has a bit of a problem but I think it's time people realise this is someones life here and not an episode of Coronation Street, you know real kids and a real risk of going down if he tw*ts someone! Sorry for jumping in with a rant but reading this through from the start shows some worrying advice that is most likely going to worsen the situation. He seems satisfied with things now so best of luck to him.
We all sympathise with LSG1,he asked for our opinions and thats all we have done,give him our opinions.Best of luck to the fellow and his missus :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: crazyjoetavola on 06 June 2009, 18:53:37
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Maybe because if I had seen went mental and stuff ?


That could be an explanation LSG.  I'm glad that you feel a bit better about it. 

It's always better to ask the question rather than turning endless possibilities over in your mind - if you need to know - you ask, that's how you make a valued judgement.

Trust is the prime factor when you share your life with someone and to discard that trust by not asking that question risks throwing everything away - for nothing :y

Hope everything works out for you both :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 18:57:14
So do I, cheers mate  :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: cem_devecioglu on 06 June 2009, 19:14:18
Sometimes keeping silence is better me thinks..

and in case of problem keep in mind, nothing is the end of life and have many alternative solutions..

Wish you the best of luck LSG1.. :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: Del Boy on 06 June 2009, 19:27:29
Thats what I did, kept me silence son then explained stuff and kinda fell into place.
Cheers Cem btw :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: cem_devecioglu on 06 June 2009, 19:29:48
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Thats what I did, kept me silence son then explained stuff and kinda fell into place.
Cheers Cem btw :y

 :y :y
Title: Re: Help with something
Post by: omegarob on 06 June 2009, 19:46:01
i would have a quiet word with him on the side sometime, tell him your watching his moves, and to back off if you get my drift, cappich. :y