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Title: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 20 January 2011, 15:50:02
some of you may know i decided i have no choice but to let my newly accquired MV6 go due to the fact that my life seems to be falling apart around me, apart from my job (thankfully....for now!), swmbo and i may have to go our seperate ways which means i have to sell the house

someone ran into my bora today, bumper and back light smashed :'(
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Kevin Wood on 20 January 2011, 15:58:22
Starting to feel the same. :(

Chin up, Mate. You'll look back one day when things are better and wonder what you were worried about.

Kevin
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Richie London on 20 January 2011, 16:17:14
been through it and so have lots of others, and most will tell you that things will get better but will take time. so sorry to hear of your probs dan. try to think positive and stay on top of things and good terms if you can, will make so much difference in your state of mind and your health. good luck and hope all turns out well for you.
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 20 January 2011, 16:57:48
if we do have to part it will be on good terms this time, of that i'm certain

been through it plenty of times but never had a house before!!

if it cant be sorted out, i think it's time to enjoy the single life, for the rest of my life, and be very selfish
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Richie London on 20 January 2011, 17:01:37
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if we do have to part it will be on good terms this time, of that i'm certain

been through it plenty of times but never had a house before!!

if it cant be sorted out, i think it's time to enjoy the single life, for the rest of my life, and be very selfish


thats how i am now, set in my ways. cant see me ever settling down with another woman again unless nicole kidman rings me up and demands sex with her  ;)
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Dishevelled Den on 20 January 2011, 17:12:54
Sad news indeed Danny.  I hope you both manage to get things sorted out. :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: henryd on 20 January 2011, 18:46:22
as zoo-lou says I hope you can work things out,I have been there many years ago and it was a difficult time,16 years on I am married with three lovely children so things do work themselves out in the end
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Mr Skrunts on 21 January 2011, 10:31:40
Shame things dont work out as we want them to, hope you manage to work things out Danny, have you considered keeping the ouse and taking on lodgers or just keeping the house and renting it out (thats if it covers the mortgage)  I never thought of this option when I had to sell my house to go into business in 1985, if I had the motgage would have been paid off by 3rd parties and I would be £150,000 proffit better off if sold at todays price.

Gets harder to get back on the property ladder as time goes by.
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Field Marshal Dr. Opti on 21 January 2011, 12:49:33
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if we do have to part it will be on good terms this time, of that i'm certain

been through it plenty of times but never had a house before!!

if it cant be sorted out, i think it's time to enjoy the single life, for the rest of my life, and be very selfish


thats how i am now, set in my ways. cant see me ever settling down with another woman again unless nicole kidman rings me up and demands sex with her  ;)


NK is too Scrawny for my taste Richie.....no flesh to get hold of.... :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Field Marshal Dr. Opti on 21 January 2011, 12:54:49
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Shame things dont work out as we want them to, hope you manage to work things out Danny, have you considered keeping the ouse and taking on lodgers or just keeping the house and renting it out (thats if it covers the mortgage)  I never thought of this option when I had to sell my house to go into business in 1985, if I had the motgage would have been paid off by 3rd parties and I would be £150,000 proffit better off if sold at todays price.

Gets harder to get back on the property ladder as time goes by.


This is a good possible alternative Danny.... :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Martin_1962 on 21 January 2011, 14:04:00
You have been together a few years, may be worth getting councelling
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: tunnie on 21 January 2011, 14:08:11
is the house in your name or hers, was it a joint buy or was it yours to begin with? Like above, I'd look at getting lodgers to help pay mortgage, now its time to buy not to sell  :(

Spend money you would have spent on a SWMBO, on fun stuff, like learning to snowboard or motorbikes and holidays! thats what i do  8-)
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 21 January 2011, 17:37:19
she's grown apart from me on the relationship side of things, the truth is, we do both really love each other but the way she feels about me isnt the right kind of love anymore, we're best friends, even now, and we're gonna continue living together for as long as we possibly and realistically can

even through the realisation that we cant be a couple anymore, there's been no bad feelings, no hate, no resentment, and most importantly no lies

the house is in both our names, and its a big house for what we paid (too big for us, and way too big for just one of us!!) and at the moment neither of us has anywhere else to go yet!!

i'm not hoping for anything but there's always the possibility this seperation may open our eyes, or not, but we're prepared for it now.

it weren't easy telling my mum tho!
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Lizzie_Zoom on 21 January 2011, 17:41:30
Sorry to hear of all your woes Danny :'( :'( :'(

I hope you enter a new period of better luck and events soon ;) ;)
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 21 January 2011, 18:12:46
if i win the lottery, i'll be just fine :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Martin_1962 on 22 January 2011, 12:49:25
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she's grown apart from me on the relationship side of things, the truth is, we do both really love each other but the way she feels about me isnt the right kind of love anymore, we're best friends, even now, and we're gonna continue living together for as long as we possibly and realistically can

even through the realisation that we cant be a couple anymore, there's been no bad feelings, no hate, no resentment, and most importantly no lies

the house is in both our names, and its a big house for what we paid (too big for us, and way too big for just one of us!!) and at the moment neither of us has anywhere else to go yet!!

i'm not hoping for anything but there's always the possibility this seperation may open our eyes, or not, but we're prepared for it now.

it weren't easy telling my mum tho!


That does happen - both of you work at it.

Being best friends helps a lot.
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 22 January 2011, 15:30:34
after a few days of peace, i'll start begging i think, and although some may say dont, i know she's worth it

i'll only give up when i know there's no other option
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 25 January 2011, 05:22:01
we've been in seperate rooms for 4 nights now and to be honest it's been hell, i've given all i can possibly give now to try to save what we had and i seriously think she's made up her mind

gonna finish decorating over the next few weeks, and get it on the market because to be honest, if i cant live here with her i dont want to at all, my mum's happy to let me move back in and i can really save some money for the future
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Lazydocker on 25 January 2011, 08:32:22
Sorry to hear it's proving difficult Danny. Things will get easier, eventually.

Sounds like moving back home might be a sensible option though, especially with the price you paid for your house (might even manage a profit?), so you can get some money saved up again.

I hope you and your GF still remain friends :y

Chin up mate :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 25 January 2011, 13:44:49
if she's been completely honest i'm really optimistic we'll continue to be friends, but i've come to the conclusion in the early hours of this morning that we need to get out of this house regardless and have quality time apart

the house is a big 3 bedroom (all double) end terrace with a massive kitchen with breakfast room, a large living room and a little dining room, just had a brand new 4 piece bathroom as thats also huge, and alot of other work done since we moved in 2 years ago, its on a main road with a huge private driveway (5-6 cars worth) that has no passing traffic from cars or pedestrians and its in a pretty good area (so far)

got it for £67.5k 2 years ago when the market was excellent for buyers, i'm hoping it can sell for £110k, and we owe £58k on the mortgage

i think when i do get it on the market, i may even put a listing on ebay
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: davethediver on 25 January 2011, 13:56:03
At least you have some equity in it Danny. May help to set you up again in the future, all the best however it turns out :)
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: albitz on 25 January 2011, 14:06:17
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if she's been completely honest i'm really optimistic we'll continue to be friends, but i've come to the conclusion in the early hours of this morning that we need to get out of this house regardless and have quality time apart

the house is a big 3 bedroom (all double) end terrace with a massive kitchen with breakfast room, a large living room and a little dining room, just had a brand new 4 piece bathroom as thats also huge, and alot of other work done since we moved in 2 years ago, its on a main road with a huge private driveway (5-6 cars worth) that has no passing traffic from cars or pedestrians and its in a pretty good area (so far)

got it for £67.5k 2 years ago when the market was excellent for buyers, i'm hoping it can sell for £110k, and we owe £58k on the mortgage

i think when i do get it on the market, i may even put a listing on ebay
Christ ! a one bed flat is over £100,000 here, and in a not very nice area of London a one bed flat is around £250,000 :o
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 25 January 2011, 14:25:57
house prices are considerably lower here anywa, but it was definately a bargain, i dont think we've put more than £8000 into getting it where it is, and i dont think it'll take more than £1000 to finish off, we've done most of the hard work so a potential new owner wont have to, apart from decorating!

may have to sell it almost fully furnished too!
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 25 January 2011, 14:27:07
i mustn't forget to say by the way, thanks to you all for your very positive comments and sympathy. it means alot :y
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Kevin Wood on 25 January 2011, 14:35:35
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if she's been completely honest i'm really optimistic we'll continue to be friends, but i've come to the conclusion in the early hours of this morning that we need to get out of this house regardless and have quality time apart

the house is a big 3 bedroom (all double) end terrace with a massive kitchen with breakfast room, a large living room and a little dining room, just had a brand new 4 piece bathroom as thats also huge, and alot of other work done since we moved in 2 years ago, its on a main road with a huge private driveway (5-6 cars worth) that has no passing traffic from cars or pedestrians and its in a pretty good area (so far)

got it for £67.5k 2 years ago when the market was excellent for buyers, i'm hoping it can sell for £110k, and we owe £58k on the mortgage

i think when i do get it on the market, i may even put a listing on ebay
Christ ! a one bed flat is over £100,000 here, and in a not very nice area of London a one bed flat is around £250,000 :o

Not just me then. I was wondering if he'd missed the 2 off the front... or even the 3. :o

I hope things work out OK whichever path you take from here, Danny.

Kevin
Title: Re: as if things couldn't get any worse!
Post by: Danny on 25 January 2011, 14:38:38
thanks!

no that price really is what i paid

if i'd been able to predict how much money i'd have saved by staying at home all along, i could have bought it mortgage free by now!