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Title: She's gone.
Post by: Amigo on 10 July 2011, 01:34:24
Today/yesterday @1700hrs. Once the nurses had prepared her my grown up son Scott went in again to say goodbye to his Grandma & Dad was understandably mortified. I wated drinking in the garden until the undertakers took her outside where she'd wanted to be for weeks, kissed her goodbye & told her i'd never stop loving or missing her. I forced myself to watch her getting covered up & taken away, she bought me into this world so i had to see her off.

   I've never felt so terrible, it's undescribable but all i could do for her. All the sisters/nieces & nephews are staying across the lane tonight which leaves my lad,myself, the old boy & a confused black lab crying & laughing. This is well rough & just wrong but at least she's at peace now

   I'm not posting this on my MX5/Cortina forums or f/book but i've known you lot long enough not to mind.

  To those of you who've shared similar losses on here i know how you feel now..who said biglads don't cry? :'(
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Post by: Lazydocker on 10 July 2011, 01:38:50
Guy. My deepest sympathies to you and the rest of your family at this difficult time. Be strong for your dad.

Big hug from Emma with lots of kisses
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Post by: saltyone on 10 July 2011, 01:59:54
i am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum , my heart felt sympathy goes out to you and your family  . take some comfort knowing that she is up above looking down on you and still looking out for you ..  :(
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Post by: gstylebaby on 10 July 2011, 04:53:41
I read your post with a heavy heart and tears in my eyes friend.  I know just how you feel right now and nothing anybody says will make it any better at this point.  All i can say is that i'm sorry for you and your familys loss and peace be with you all at this time.  Maybe one day the pain will not be so bad friend.  Chin up mate and cry all you want it does not make you any lesser of a man.
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Post by: Andy B on 10 July 2011, 06:50:32
Deepest sympathies Guy.

Andy & Annette
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Post by: Gaffers on 10 July 2011, 06:57:54
My heartfelt sympathies for you and your family.

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Post by: M on 10 July 2011, 07:03:37
Deepest sympathies for you mate, take it easy and remember her smile

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Post by: skyblue on 10 July 2011, 07:04:03
Im so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Post by: albitz on 10 July 2011, 07:56:09
So sorry Guy. She is at peace now. No more suffering.
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Post by: Richie London on 10 July 2011, 08:13:09
i feel for you guy very much so, must of been so heartbreaking for you to see her go like that, i'm afraid my mother is slowly deteriating now and the thought of it is undescribale whats been going through my mind lately. the love you have for her and the memories will always be there in your mind. best wishes mate
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Post by: Auto Addict on 10 July 2011, 08:26:14
Deepest sympathies, Guy, for you and your family.
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Post by: cem_devecioglu on 10 July 2011, 08:54:35
My deepest sympathies Guy..

Ba[ch351][ch305]n sa[ch287]olsun..

at least she doesnt feel pain now and will rest in peace..
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Post by: Ratty on 10 July 2011, 09:00:00
My sincere condolences to you and your family, may she rest in peace.
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Post by: jonnycool on 10 July 2011, 09:00:42
So sorry Guy, as others have said at least she is at rest now with no more pain and suffering. Best wishes, Jon
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Post by: STMO123 on 10 July 2011, 09:06:25
Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.

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Post by: hercules on 10 July 2011, 09:48:11
really sorry guy :'(
its strange when your laughing but crying but when your all together and bringing up all her habits and ways of doing things you will be howling with tears ;)

god bless mums
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Post by: russ0205 on 10 July 2011, 10:01:07
My heart goes out to you, tears in my eyes as i am reading it just think of all the great times god bless.

Russ  :'(
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Post by: henryd on 10 July 2011, 10:30:44
My deepest sympathies to you and your family Guy.
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Post by: Field Marshal Dr. Opti on 10 July 2011, 10:56:41
So sorry Guy.. :'(
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Post by: Ian_D on 10 July 2011, 12:03:48
Really sorry to hear that Guy.

Deepest sympathies with you and your family.


Ian
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Post by: omegod on 10 July 2011, 14:50:37
So sorry Guy, Know exactly how you must feel as I went through the same with my Mum, in terms of emotions just go with the flow mate as there are no rules to grief and no shame in tears, no matter how big you are.

Will be thinking of you and the family.

Jon

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Post by: PhilRich on 10 July 2011, 14:56:27
I am so sorry for your loss Guy :'(
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Post by: aaronjb on 10 July 2011, 15:17:07
So sorry to read this Guy, sincere condolences :(
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Post by: tigers_gonads on 10 July 2011, 16:18:45
So sorry Guy  :( :(

Sincere condolences to you and all your family

Steve, Brenda and family
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Post by: Jimbob on 10 July 2011, 16:21:07
So sorry to hear this Guy, also glad it hasnt dragged on for you as hard as that is.  We went through it a couple of years ago when I lost mine, so if you need a chat or anything, please shout up.

James
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Post by: hotel21 on 10 July 2011, 16:29:18
Our sincere condolences Guy.  Thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by: CaptainZok on 10 July 2011, 16:47:43
So sorry for you mate, anything we can do shout up. John, Carol, John & Tony.
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Post by: Tony H on 10 July 2011, 16:57:25
I'm sat here reading this post with tears rolling down my cheeks,deepest condolences Guy, I know how you feel I lost my mum in similar circumstances almost two years ago, It's a mixture of emotions. Glad that there is no more suffering but sorrow that the lady who has been there for you all of your life has past on. She may have left you on this earth but she will be forever with you in your heart
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Post by: LJay on 10 July 2011, 17:45:59
I'm so sorry Guy. :'(
The pain will fade and the good times will remain, in the mean time lots of love to you and best wishes to your family.
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Post by: TheBoy on 10 July 2011, 19:40:19
I am so sorry to hear this. I gather from previous posts it was expected, but nothing helps soften the blow of it when it happens.  Not even the knowledge that perhaps there is some element of relief that the suffering has ended.

Chin up, big fella, we are thinking of you


 :'(
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Post by: feeutfo on 10 July 2011, 22:41:09
So sad, deepsest sympathys from H and I.  :'(
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Post by: Vamps on 10 July 2011, 22:42:35
Sorry for your loss Guy, our Sincere Condolences to yourself and your family......
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Post by: Psychoca on 10 July 2011, 22:46:10
Condolences from Mrs Psychoca and I...
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Post by: I_want_an_Omega on 11 July 2011, 08:40:38
Am so sorry to hear that Guy. This exact same thing happened to me some years ago so I know exactly how you feel.

Heartfelt regards - Rob
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Post by: joff on 11 July 2011, 10:01:14
Sorry for your loss, it is never easy at a time like this you have my sincere condolences.
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Post by: RobG on 11 July 2011, 10:27:02
May she rest in peace now Guy. :'(

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday
You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

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Post by: Ken T on 11 July 2011, 20:54:10
Sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences.

Ken
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Post by: Hannah Judes Dad on 11 July 2011, 21:18:50
Sorry for your loss Guy,it's never easy when this happens.
I know what it's like as I lost my mum 8 years ago,you will still have your memories even though she has gone.

All the best to you and your family,Simon.
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Post by: Amigo on 12 July 2011, 17:52:51
Thanks again all of you for your thoughts. Given the state she was in i'm kinda glad she's not suffering & making those racking noises anymore. In some ways i feel closer to her now as if she's watching me so i'd better behave!!!

   I've told Dad she's watching him too & making a list!!!!!

   The Cremation is friday week @ Findon Valley in West Sussex so i'll be going down again on the Thursday & stopping off at Hove to pick my son up.

   Big boys will cry again because we love her & i've got to read/speak but i'll do it regardless. I've set myself off again now but your wishes have REALLY helped & taught me not to be so curt with some of you at times...(Broocie) when i know your hearts are in the right place & i should shut up...which i will do now suffice to say OOF has really helped.

  Cheers, Guy.
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Post by: dippydave on 12 July 2011, 18:07:21
Heartfelt sympathies. Celebrate and honour your mum's life and know without pain she is in a better place.

I lost my Nana very recently in similar circumstances and as hard as it's been, the family have got each other through it.

I hope you and your big boys will do her and yourselves proud.

Best wishes, Dave.
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Post by: Kevin Wood on 12 July 2011, 21:23:37
Sorry, Guy, been away from the 'net camping for a couple of days but belated condolences from Emma and I. We're thinking of you.
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Post by: Jusme on 12 July 2011, 22:40:07
My sincerest condolences Guy to you and yours...
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Post by: Seth on 12 July 2011, 23:21:21
Sincerest condolences from The Valleys, Guy.
Be strong mate.

Byron & Pamela.
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Post by: neilr on 13 July 2011, 16:05:39
Sorry for your loss puts thing in perspective not lost my mum but lost my dad at 17 almost 30years ago now still have the memories though all the best Neil
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Post by: bertie1.8vectra on 17 July 2011, 10:57:15
please accept my condolences guy from me and val and our family my thoughts and prayers are with you and your nearest in this time mate  :'( :'( :'(