How can people say that when you're number's up it's up?!?! And say about fate and what have you?!?!
Well then what's the point in having speed limits, traffic lights and safe systems of work and road design?
If someone has a heart attack let's just leave them to die, or if someone has cancer don't give them any treatment, just leave them, it's their turn to kick the bucket! What's all that about?!?!
I don't think so. Yes there are many things that we can't change or do anything about, but as has been mentioned it's all about risk assessment and taking action to mitigate the risk.
Everyone on this forum, countless times everyday without even thinking about it will take action or not take action to change outcomes, or to increase or decrease the likelihood of something happening or not happening.
This thing we call fate is just our brains looking for patterns and trying to find a reason for things we can't explain or don't want to accept.
I agree that came across as a bit fatalist in the discussion but I don't think it was meant that way.
There are some circumstances where you know that YOU have no control over whether you live or die. At those times it might be appropriate to say our number's up. However, we find ourselves in situations daily where we can choose if we live or die, and if someone else lives or dies. That's where social responsibility comes in.
As for God intervening... I am sure he does on occasion but generally he relies on the ordered nature of what he's created to determine outcomes.
I have a nephew who shouldn't be alive but his non-God-believing neurosurgeon says it's a miracle that he is alive. Three years on from his collision he is starting to walk again. Not a complete healing by any stretch of the imagination, but his parents are mighty happy to have him around.
I agree with you there, in that there are circumstances where you have no control, but how many really do you not have control over? Really?
1. A madwoman pointing a gun to your head. You can reason with her. It might not work and she might shoot you, but at least you could argue you had a small amount of control.
2. People who skid on black ice, then say 'I didn't see it, it's not my fault' etc etc! They know it's cold, there should be a reasonable expectation as to the road conditions. Yes we all can be caught out, but we still have control. I for one love going fast, but appropriately, I hate inappropriate speed, it's not fun it's daft.
3. A cancer sufferer. They might not be able to treat it themselves. But if they seek treatment that is an element of control.
I once watched a TV program about a so called haunted area/road. A woman said that she was driving along this stretch of 'haunted' road when suddenly the steering wheel jerked to the left and she nearly crashed. She didn't crash, but tried to say that it was a ghost that had grabbed the wheel and tried to make her crash. More like she was gassing to her mate/on the phone/not paying attention or didn't have a proper hold of the steering wheel or something else plausible or a combination. Either way she had control.
I'm sorry about your nephew Chris H, I hope he gets better, like I hope everyone lives a healthy life. I know nothing about his collision, but speaking generally I would say this.
If, owing to the nature of their driving, an individual has a crash, then so many months/years down the line there is medical complications, I would say they do have control. Bear with me. Yes they might not be a doctor, and can't treat themselves, but theie injuries are just a consequence of their driving, which they had control over, however long the injuries or recovery last.
Yeah I believe there are situations where we have no control, but they are very very rare.