Lets get some facts.
A DPF MUST regen.
The setup is a filter which over time (e.g. 1000 miles - dependent) clogs up.
This is detected via a few means but mainly a differential pressure sensor which detects rising back pressure in the system.
Once this happens, the DPF has to regen, there is no avoiding it.
To do this the injection timing of the fuel is changed and the inlet is also modified via swirl flaps and/or the throttle butterfly to increase teh exhaust gas temperture significantly.
This in turn raises the temperature of the DPF and the soot in the filter is burnt producing ash which is expelled from the exhaust.
Regens take about 10 minutes (depends on the engine output and size of the filter).
All you can do is try to listen out for the regen (or monitor the mpg as it will drop significantly) as the exhaust tends to get a distinct bass note and drone. When this happens drive with the revs above 2000rpm until the regen is completed.
If you terminate the regen three plus times then it can go into limp mode and potentialy block up totaly.