I know exactly what you mean. My dad passed away this month, he had dementia as well, other complications included mesothelioma (precursor to lung cancer) from when he worked at Dowty in the 50's and 60's.
I, like you, felt only relief. To put it another way, my Dad died when he no longer knew who I was, which was about 4 years ago.... I have been grieving this since then. The person we cremated was my father, a stranger to us as he no longer had the memories that make a person who they are.
Now he is in a better place, wherever that may be, with all his faculties returned to him (or so I like to think)
I have just completed the last of the paperwork as I was his Power of Attorney, long drawn out job made all the more difficult as he had no Will.
The end of an era for us, I had so looked forward to him being able to pass on his skills to me regarding engineering, unfortunately that wasn't to be.
As others have said, there is no 'right or wrong' when it comes to dealing with issues like these, you just do what you have to and feel how you will.
My sympathy is with you and your family for the loss.
Best regards
Jon
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