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[jereboam]

I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
     What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
    I must've missed a point somewhere!!!!

I have found that to be very true.  If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate.  If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!!  That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership

Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).

In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided.  I get hurt, the wife wins.  I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right.  In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.

My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option.

[Richie London]

Ok, so now i'm slightly regretting my impulse buy!
Annoyed that my new car has gone wrong while the old one is sat outside perfect!
 

every now and then you get aus men understand and have sympathy, it cant be easy being a woman.  

[LJay]

No its not easy! We have to put up with you lot!
 

[JiMbOb789]

Zoe passed her driving test last monday, so took her down to Leicester to look at some cars (TAT). Came back only to find Rachel was in the middle of swapping bedrooms with Zoe (as Zoe has the larger room). The triple wardrobe was on the landing & she had attempted to get in the room alone instead of waiting for me to come back. She was on one, calling the robe stupid etc. I got the screw drivers, hammer & other various tools to which she said "what are you doing?" "I'm gona take it apart" R "it'll take ages" me "so will leaving it on the landing, cos it ain't gona go in like that". Proceeded to dismantle robe & then we both tipped it on it's back & in it went. Put it back together & now you'd never know i took it apart.
Why can't they just wait & be patient, because in the end the job gets done & gets done properly   But they get all flustered, heated up & *then all goes arse upwards*
My question is to a 99% male forum, are they all the same :-/ :-/

   [size=20]YES!!!![/size]  

so true

[Richie London]

if only life was such  
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjxY9rZwNGU

[FRE07962128]

I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
     What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
    I must've missed a point somewhere!!!!

I have found that to be very true.  If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate.  If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!!  That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership

Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).

In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided.  I get hurt, the wife wins.  I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right.  In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.

My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option.

My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage.

It is hardly just  amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?.  If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.

All the best Jereyboam

[psychnurse]

I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
     What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
    I must've missed a point somewhere!!!!

I have found that to be very true.  If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate.  If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!!  That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership

Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).

In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided.  I get hurt, the wife wins.  I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right.  In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.

My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option.

My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage.

It is hardly just  amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?.  If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.

All the best Jereyboam

My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70  
Still, the wife says im happy enough  

[Vamps]

I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
     What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
    I must've missed a point somewhere!!!!

I have found that to be very true.  If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate.  If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!!  That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership

Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).

In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided.  I get hurt, the wife wins.  I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right.  In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.

My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option.

My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage.

It is hardly just  amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?.  If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.

All the best Jereyboam

My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70  
Still, the wife says im happy enough  

I wear the trousers in our house, when swmbo says it's ok

Though more recently this seems to be when 7 yr old daughter says I can

[FRE07962128]

I also got told "a good row clears the air". Never understood that one.......why?
     What is a good row? If a girl i was with was worried about something or a problem arose, i though he idea was to support eachother not take it out on eachother.
    I must've missed a point somewhere!!!!

I have found that to be very true.  If you bottle things up, hiding what should be said because you do not want to upset your love, then eventually it can destroy a marriage / relationship as resentment builds and love turns to hate.  If you release the tension by having a good row every so often then it clears the air and you can enjoy 'making up', which is a REAL pleasure in itself!!  That makes for a healthy marriage / partnership

Philosophy I can cope with, amateur psychology I can't (and my apologies if you are a professional).

In my case "a good row" is totally one-sided.  I get hurt, the wife wins.  I'd much rather bottle it up - it avoids the humiliation of another climb-down when I am convinced I am right.  In time I will forget the bottled up resentment, the defeat will smart for longer.

My coming out on top in one of these set pieces is not an option.

My opinion comes from 55 years of life experience, dealing on a professional level with staff, experiences with family and friends (including those who are in their 51st year of married life, and my own 28 year (failed for 'other' reasons) marriage.

It is hardly just  amateur pshyology (and I have academically studied this) :-? :-?.  If you feel your arguments are "one sided" I suggest there is something very wrong, but of course that is your business. However, marriages / partnership should be on an equal footing and everything should be openly and honestly discussed on that basis.

All the best Jereyboam

My marriage is perfectly equal 30/70  
Still, the wife says im happy enough