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[bertie1.8vectra]

Not in a really good place at moment..... MY daughter fell out with her cousin 2 weeks ago resulting in a girl fight and my daughter hurting her cousin... Ok they`ve not spoken for a couple of weeks but her cousins elder sister has now started sending abusive texts and threats that she`ll break her effing legs if she comes around or near their house... I`ve tried to allow them both to sort this out amicably and if they want to be friends again then so be it but this elder sister will not let things drop she even replied to innocus post on face book last night and turned that into a slanging match with my brother in law(who does love to wind people up) i asked her to stop escalting things only for her to become abusive to me and tell me to eff off... Well its gone up a notch now with her saying she is gonna have my daughter arrested if she does not apologise to her and her mum and younger sister.... now i agree my daughter should apologise to her cousin.. But she does not have to apologise to the mum or elder sister, as they are not involved other than going off the deep end with this.... What i`m asking is because i`m not 100% certain is the incident happened in thurrock essex and they are gonna report it to west mids police.... What do you reckon will west mids response be?? will they say it happened in essex so you`ve gotta report it to essex or will they investigate and then tell them all to grow up and stop wasting police time???

Me i`d rather the wife and daughter go round and apologise 2mora after a 24hr cooling off period and if they then still go to the police we will have a record of the threats and abuse they sent electronically via black berry and face book....

 

[dbug]

Not the crime of the century - Police won't want to know

[Crazycarzowner]

Which ever force area the 'incident' happened in will have to respond to it, so if it happened in Essex then their force should deal if a complaint came in. Depending upon what happened ie. level of injuries would determine the response - slap on wrist or informal interview & caution, or even arrest but I think that's doubtful given the time that's elapsed. Some forces do a king of mediation meeting, I know ours does but I've never done it myself.
As for the Facebook stuff  think they should grow up really. (again depending upon content) bordering on harassment or miscommunication act & that's the way they'll look at it. I've dealt with a few cases now and usually a stern telling off gets the message through & thats the line I'd take. If Facebook stuff continues there are things that Facebook can do to stop it ie. block them off the site (I've used that a couple of times too).
What happened to the days where you could have a good old punch up & shake hands after 

[hercules]

families eh,my wife is one of 4 girls and theyve all got attitudes

[Richie London]

If she reports it she will be the one most like to be charged as she is the one sending threatening texts. let her go ahead i say

[OOMV6]

Simple fact is that it takes 2 or more people to argue. Therefore if one party just does not respond or bite, no mater how they might feel like doing so, then there will be no argument.
So, the best, I would suggest is if your daughter does ignores it, no matter how painful the comments, then the other party will stop. They have to eventually.

[tigers_gonads]

Simple fact is that it takes 2 or more people to argue. Therefore if one party just does not respond or bite, no mater how they might feel like doing so, then there will be no argument.
So, the best, I would suggest is if your daughter does ignores it, no matter how painful the comments, then the other party will stop. They have to eventually.

Just make sure your daughter  ignores it then keep a record of all abusive texts and tw*tter / gaybook threats and insults for future police reference 

[bertie1.8vectra]

I've told her not to worry bout it.. I mean they live approx 700yds awayand if they felt that strong bout it they would of come round by now... All my daughter is really worried about is they all work for weather spoons in 2 different pubs.. They are in Dudley and my daughter is the catering manager at 1 in birmingham city centre.. So she's just worried bout work really... Me I could not careless about them and I've made feelings known that if they come to my house I'll escort them back down the footpath with my boot nine lace holes up their collective arses... Family get togethers will be interesting this year.... 

[dbug]

Best way of dealig with it mate 

[Amigo]

Tricky one here Gary. I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth & believe it or not being the black sheep of the family come from a privileged background. That said i preferred the working class life & still do to this day so have lived both sides of the coin. I find shouting in the street vulgar & uncivilised, usually between two crusty fishwives or two blokes that are scared of eachother but feel the need to front the bravado. If two children fight they should be taken aside & punished separately, no need for both sides of the family to kick off & if the adults fight over the kids fights what sort of example does that show the said children.

     As parents, aunts, uncles etc. i think we should'nt fight in front of them. Just my thoughts, i've been to a few ex girlfriends family "gatherings" over the years & found some of the behaviour in front of children disgraceful & glad i'm out of it & can enjoy visiting family happily. Best of luck matey, rather you than me!

[bertie1.8vectra]

Well nowt new to report... I saw said relatives last night as I had to pass their house on way home and wife's cousin waved at me weird un's that lot...