Tricia, have you removed all boot trims to locate the VX socket 
Hello again Rob, yes removed all trim, thanks for letting me know I havn't got to get the relay, I am just gonna start joining in wires as per your colours in diagram and hope that opel use the same colours ha ha.
Maybe not having connector is because my omega is comfort model which is equivilent to lowly gls wearas most on the site seem to have the better models ha ha.
I'd be very surprised if it's not there
Mine (although the older model) was tucked up in the panel at the back near the boot catch
Hi Andy,
I have been back out again and searched and poked in every orafice and there is no connector, thee cannot be one as I can trace every wire and if the kind man that has offerd to upload my pics does so you will see the wires in boot in fullview with none disappearing into the unknown.
Regards TriciaS
I just read latest posts but decided to post this as I already wrote it , but at least you now know I really looked everywhere hahahaha.
I will finish tomorrow as weather too cold for me now.
Thanks for all help and I wlll post again when it is all up and running.