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[bored bigyin54]

i'm wondering if it's worth carrying on with life

[Jusme]

Yes Ralf it is, perhaps time to take a drive to see Kev...? Chin up mate, keep yourself occupied. 

[Lagondanet]

I don't know you, but it is. Seek some help from your friends and family. Share the pain.

[bored bigyin54]

Yes Ralf it is, perhaps time to take a drive to see Kev...? Chin up mate, keep yourself occupied. 

been trying to do that but didn't work

[jimbobmccoy]

Yes. It is.
Accepting that it may not seem like there is at the moment, but believing it will get better from listening to people who have felt the same and got through it is what you have to do.
Unfortunately things will seem like there's no point for a while, but one day you'll realise that it hasn't seemed as bad that day, or it might only be for a period of a few hours, and that will help, and give you a bit of hope-eventually you'll be able to look back and realise that you can now see reasons for living and life is better than it currently feels.

Till then you just have to take faith in people telling you it will get better.

And remember that you are an important person in other peoples lives too, I'm sure you contribute to their happiness and 'reasons for living' and that you can give that to other people in varying ways is enough of a reason to keep living on it's own imho.

[mickyboy123]

cheer up its never as bad as it seems. trust me .

[YZ250]

Yes. It is.
Accepting that it may not seem like there is at the moment, but believing it will get better from listening to people who have felt the same and got through it is what you have to do.
Unfortunately things will seem like there's no point for a while, but one day you'll realise that it hasn't seemed as bad that day, or it might only be for a period of a few hours, and that will help, and give you a bit of hope-eventually you'll be able to look back and realise that you can now see reasons for living and life is better than it currently feels.

Till then you just have to take faith in people telling you it will get better.

And remember that you are an important person in other peoples lives too, I'm sure you contribute to their happiness and 'reasons for living' and that you can give that to other people in varying ways is enough of a reason to keep living on it's own imho.

Agreed. 

I'll try to be diplomatic here and my words are well intentioned.

Your wife's destiny was out of her hands but yours is well and truly in yours. I bet your wife would have given anything for a few more years, she would have been horrified by you even thinking such a thing.

An ex work colleague killed himself a couple of years back. If he could see the pain on his family's faces when they talk about him I'm sure he wouldn't have done it. He inflicted a worse pain on them than he was feeling, as they continually blame themselves for not spotting the signs.

I'm sure you would hate to be guilty of doing the same. 

[flyer 0712]

i know we all say...it will get better in time.....but matey trust me ..it.will.....you have family and friends that are there for you...what would your dear wife have said to you,....yes you miss her ,you always will,however you must have great,fond memories of yourself and your wife that will remain with you for ever.,try to bear with the grief that you and all of us must go through at sometimes in our lives,but my friend you can do this,we all have different ways of dealing with it..and you will find your inner strength to do this as well...

[cleggy]

You have just made a big step forward by starting this thread.
Keep talking to friends and family and us motley lot on here. It will get better, a lot of us have lost loved ones and do know the feeling. Keep occupied and at the lowest ebb talk someone or us lot, you are worth it and so is life.

[mickyboy123]

if you need a break from your current surroundings you could allways come to sunny brighton and stay here for a week i live alone in a big house .just an idea your not alone in this world. lots of kind people just talk to them .wishing you all the best.

[omega3000]

It will get better , its early days yet mate . My sister passed away 4 years ago only 50 and it ripped us apart but although its been hard especially for parents we always have fond memories of when she was around  Its an old saying but time is a great healer , take up that offer to Brighton , it sounds just the thing you need 

[bored bigyin54]

i know we all say...it will get better in time.....but matey trust me ..it.will.....you have family and friends that are there for you...what would your dear wife have said to you,....yes you miss her ,you always will,however you must have great,fond memories of yourself and your wife that will remain with you for ever.,try to bear with the grief that you and all of us must go through at sometimes in our lives,but my friend you can do this,we all have different ways of dealing with it..and you will find your inner strength to do this as well...

it because i'm still not better from the hospital treatment i have had and not all clear yet so i'm stressed about that as well

[Jusme]

Ah! stress, wonderful invention for making things seem a lot worse than they need to be. I too am not in the best of health Ralf, but the days I can avoid stress, I suddenly realise I don't feel quite as bad... Brighton sounds O.K. but put a metal plate down the back of your strides... 

[bored bigyin54]

Ah! stress, wonderful invention for making things seem a lot worse than they need to be. I too am not in the best of health Ralf, but the days I can avoid stress, I suddenly realise I don't feel quite as bad... Brighton sounds O.K. but put a metal plate down the back of your strides... 

[mickyboy123]

hey jusme, hope your not suggesting im that way inclined   >:(not all the time there are women on this earth  . brighton does have a rep tho lol.