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[Miggy24]

Well as it says.I was out in town today when i bumped in to my ex gf best friend.I said to her no emma then as in my ex and she said oh u dont know do you her family had been trying to get hold of you.7 weeks ago she had a fit in the bath and died so its it me big time as we went thou think and thin together.Been taking things out on the gf i have now since iv found out about it whish i shouldnt i know.Do you think i should ring her mum up or just leave it as it is and carry on with life

[waspy]

Oh crap mate, what a situation to be in. Only you know the relationship you have/had with her parents & so it's your call.
If it was me i would make a personal call & not phone.

[fife_omega_v6]

Sorry to hear that mate, i would go with the last reply 100% :-/

[Miggy24]

yeah i may just do that

[Mr Skrunts]

Got to agree with CD Pete, It's hard to know what to do for the best either way.

[Marie]

as the boys have said its completely your call.

it also depends on your relationship with them. i personally would leave it as its been 7 wks.

you should explain  to your new gf whats going on and she might be understanding about your moods. try not to take it out on her but i am sure she will understand.

oh and i am sorry to hear about your situation and hope it al works out for the best.

[Miggy24]

My new gf knows about whats happend and knows why im taking it out on her.Maybe thinking that i might go to her grave and pay my repect instead of going to the family home

[amigov6]

As already said you know how the relationship went so whether it's appropriate to contact her family with your sympathies. Also consider how your got on with her parents/siblings. despite being happily single now i'm still speaking terms with my ex gf's & their families, nothing bad ever happened.It must be difficult for you. Despite not wanting any of them back i'd be upset if something like this happened to any of them, that's a rough trot & must've been a shock to hear.

  Best of luck, Guy.

[Miggy24]

yeah sure is and the sadest thing about it is that she was only 21

[Taxi_Driver]

Sorry to hear  
Personally tho from what you have said, i would agree with Pete.....or at least call.....as they have been trying to contact you.....phone call might be easier for you if you carnt face a personal visit....but i think you should try at least one of the options.....but your call......good luck  

[amigov6]

Obviously her family think well of you if they've tried to contact you, so try to respond. If you can't bring yourself to visit or phone (which would be best if you can) at least send an expensive tastefull card & a bouquet to her parents with a letter explaining your doubts & your phone no if they don't have it, that gives them the option to reply, it won't be long before the funeral & you should pay your respects if the family are ok with it. Hard at the time but you'll be glad you did.
   Lastly, try not to take it out on your new girlfriend, it's probably hard for her to deal with from her side of things, if she's supporting you in this then stand by her, she's a good'un!

[Miggy24]

the funeral has already been done otherwise i would of gone to it.Yeah ur right mate the new gf is a good un

[amigov6]

the funeral has already been done otherwise i would of gone to it.Yeah ur right mate the new gf is a good un

Time to concentrate on life with her now then. Maybe still send a sympathies card to her family.
    Best of luck, Guy.