how tight should the rad cap be.
i pretty much turn it until it cant turn anymore
Just hand tight, so that it seals.
If you take the cap off and have a look at it, you'll see a black
centre piece with 2 small holes in it. This is the 2 way valve.
The valve will vent out if there is too much pressure in the system,
and vent inwards if a vacuum starts to form.
If you look at the screw threads around the inside of the cap,
you'll see 4 vertical cut outs. The 2 way valve connects the system,
by-passing the cap seal, when it reaches an over or under pressure
condition.
Seeing as your top hose is collapsing as the coolant cools and
contracts, this is indicating that the seal is holding the pressure,
but the valve is failing to open when an under pressure condition
occurs.
The top hose gets all the heat, so goes through a greater cycle
than the bottom hose, so tends to soften first. This is why you
are seeing your top hose flatten.
Replace the cap.
As previous posters have stated, unless you're getting other symptoms
that you haven't told us about, your slight mayo in the filler cap is
normal.
As previously stated, some oils are more susceptible than others
to this. So if it's bugging you, try a different semi sythetic oil at
the next change. But don't waste money doing the change early.
It really is no big deal.
