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[Marie]

well the day is drawering closer my hubby is havin a major opp on both his legs on friday afternoon.

Basically they are going to slice down the front of both shins peal the skin back then carve into his muscle several times( well its more times then that) then stitch the skin back together.
They want him walkin on saturday if all goes to plan, if not ill be putting a wheel chair in the boot of the omega.
(he has been waiting for this opp now for 3years, which is stupid and hes in the RN so its pussers fault.)

he then goes for 3 week intense rehab on the 26th.

see the thing is i know he is worried about it as i am i but i am putting on a brave face for him. dont want to let him know i am really worried as it will make him worse.

i cant talk to him about how i am feeling for this reason so i thought talking to you guys might help me. and he dont look on OOF so i know he wont find out.

Just hope i can cope while hes gone what with a pain in the arse for a son(hes 3  and driving me up the wall), half a ton of study and several exams and  to top it off the royal navy are not helpin with my out of hour duties while i am gone they want me to pay the extra childcare fees so i can do soddin duties which at this  present in time are the least of my worries.

sorry had to spill to someone.

[waspy]

Hey Marie. Sod work, your family allways comes first.
Work will take a back seat or at least it should & they should understand.
That's what i live by.
You can't juggle to many things, because you'll drop one.
We're here to listen though & hopefully help.

[Marie]

Hey Marie. Sod work, your family allways comes first.
Work will take a back seat or at least it should & they should understand.
That's what i live by.
You can't juggle to many things, because you'll drop one.
We're here to listen though & hopefully help.

cheers i will self distruct before i drop one of them, my divsional officer (boss type person) does not give a sh*t keeps telling me "its life in a blue suit" i have been so close to leaning over his desk and headbutting him but its not worth a stint in colchester for.

[TheBoy]

A worrying time. At least its finally happening now though. Hopefully, by Sat, all the worrying will be over

[waspy]

Hey Marie. Sod work, your family allways comes first.
Work will take a back seat or at least it should & they should understand.
That's what i live by.
You can't juggle to many things, because you'll drop one.
We're here to listen though & hopefully help.

cheers i will self distruct before i drop one of them, my divsional officer (boss type person) does not give a sh*t keeps telling me "its life in a blue suit" i have been so close to leaning over his desk and headbutting him but its not worth a stint in colchester for.

It's just a job, not a life. Your families the most important thing you'll ever have. It's a shame some don't realize this.
Personally i hate people that put work before family  

[Grumpy]

Prioritise.

1)Look after yourself first. You can't help your son or hubby if you are
   not ok within yourself.
2)Your son is the next priority. He can't look after himself. Be there
   for him. Ref the childcare fees, have you not got a good friend that
   look after him, perhaps along with their own child, for when you
   on duty?
3)Next is hubby. The medical staff will be looking after the physical
   bits. You look after the mental side of stuff with plenty of support
   and looking after the rest of the stuff in your lives, so that he
   concentrate on getting better without any distractions.
4)Exams and studying can take a back seat for the 3 week
   recuperation period. You've got the rest of your life to attack
   them. When you are in a better frame of mind with no distractions.

You'll be ok. Just take everything one day at a time and deal with
problems as and when they arise.
Remember to look after yourself first. You'll be no use to anyone if you
don't.  

[waspy]

Prioritise.

1)Look after yourself first. You can't help your son or hubby if you are
   not ok within yourself.
2)Your son is the next priority. He can't look after himself. Be there
   for him. Ref the childcare fees, have you not got a good friend that
   look after him, perhaps along with their own child, for when you
   on duty?
3)Next is hubby. The medical staff will be looking after the physical
   bits. You look after the mental side of stuff with plenty of support
   and looking after the rest of the stuff in your lives, so that he
   concentrate on getting better without any distractions.
4)Exams and studying can take a back seat for the 3 week
   recuperation period. You've got the rest of your life to attack
   them. When you are in a better frame of mind with no distractions.

You'll be ok. Just take everything one day at a time and deal with
problems as and when they arise.
Remember to look after yourself first. You'll be no use to anyone if you
don't.  

Yep. Wise words  

[MikeDundee]

Prioritise.

1)Look after yourself first. You can't help your son or hubby if you are
   not ok within yourself.
2)Your son is the next priority. He can't look after himself. Be there
   for him. Ref the childcare fees, have you not got a good friend that
   look after him, perhaps along with their own child, for when you
   on duty?
3)Next is hubby. The medical staff will be looking after the physical
   bits. You look after the mental side of stuff with plenty of support
   and looking after the rest of the stuff in your lives, so that he
   concentrate on getting better without any distractions.
4)Exams and studying can take a back seat for the 3 week
   recuperation period. You've got the rest of your life to attack
   them. When you are in a better frame of mind with no distractions.

You'll be ok. Just take everything one day at a time and deal with
problems as and when they arise.
Remember to look after yourself first. You'll be no use to anyone if you
don't.  

Could'nt agree more , hope everything works out fine

[Jay w]

Prioritise.

1)Look after yourself first. You can't help your son or hubby if you are
   not ok within yourself.
2)Your son is the next priority. He can't look after himself. Be there
   for him. Ref the childcare fees, have you not got a good friend that
   look after him, perhaps along with their own child, for when you
   on duty?
3)Next is hubby. The medical staff will be looking after the physical
   bits. You look after the mental side of stuff with plenty of support
   and looking after the rest of the stuff in your lives, so that he
   concentrate on getting better without any distractions.
4)Exams and studying can take a back seat for the 3 week
   recuperation period. You've got the rest of your life to attack
   them. When you are in a better frame of mind with no distractions.

You'll be ok. Just take everything one day at a time and deal with
problems as and when they arise.
Remember to look after yourself first. You'll be no use to anyone if you
don't.  

Wise words.

Talking helps to relieve the burden of worry, and sometimes you want to talk to loved ones but if they are part of that worry then you feel isolated.

try and talk to him about his worries, if he can open up and talk you will find it easier to talk about your own concerns, there's nothing to say that he isn't worrying about you worrying about him and your son and work etc.

good luck, and remember you can always post stuff up here, it's like writing a letter and sometimes that's a good release
 

[Dave-C]

1/Work to Live, NOT, Live to Work.

2/ Family are paramount, there is NOTHING MORE IMPORTANT (End Of)

I had a big bust up with my boss before Christmas, told it to him like it was!  45 mins later got a phone call, an apology and lots more respect ever since...  Cleared the air considerably...

"Will be thinking of Hubby on Friday, all WILL go well..."


Keep your pretty face smiling, you don't want crows feet now do you

Dave C

[Kevin Wood]

I do hope it all goes well for him. As others have said, your welfare and that of your family comes before work. It's not a disaster if that has to be put on the back burner while you get through this.

Kevin

[zippo]

And the MOD wonder why recruitment figures are falling, your d.o is a
tosser i thought they were meant to help, after all if you aren't happy your work is going to suffer.Good luck to your fella tho    

[Marie]

Cheers fellas i just wish the ar*e hole at work thought more like you guys. i get the fealing he dont like me! or is it because i am a women in the royal navy we do get that sometimes. just want to give him a peace of my mind but i cant not without concequences anyway.

[Dave-C]

Cheers fellas i just wish the ar*e hole at work thought more like you guys. i get the fealing he dont like me! or is it because i am a women in the royal navy we do get that sometimes. just want to give him a peace of my mind but i cant not without concequences anyway.

Diplomatically, level terms.... shouldn't be offended, if so, well!  as you say t0553r!

I work with a few women, they are women in a mans world... not saying that you are, these women are..  I make a point of being there for them, at certain times they are very sensitive and sobby, that's OK, other times they are bossy, that's OK too..  they are vey good friends indeed, always at the end of the phone for each other... ended up helping to drain a tank of diesel / petrol mixture from one of their husbands company cars yesterday...  that's what friends are for....

One big Happy Family


Keep smiling, you've got us!

DC 8-)

[Marie]

And i am greatfull for that.

sod them at least i know i can log on and chat to someone on here.
there is nothing really work can do to me, they are not going to shave my head and sand me to afgan.

cheers guys.