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[zippo]

is there someone further up the chain you could approach with out it looking like your telling tales or a families officer, may be

[Marie]

is there someone further up the chain you could approach with out it looking like your telling tales or a families officer, may be

looks like someone knows the system........

dont worrie all i will do is mention it yet again to my divsional officer and then if my grades start t fail or i end up having snags of any type i will make my way to the bish, he will not patronise or belittle me and he has more power then anybody in my section. there is also a chief petty officer that i get on really well with that i can go to aswell. the only snag is i cant do ether of the above until my divisional officer f**ks up! have to use the chain of command much as i dont want to cos if i dont i get in the s**t.

royal Navy employes ssome right nobs

[TheBoy]

I work with a few women, they are women in a mans world... not saying that you are, these women are..  I make a point of being there for them, at certain times they are very sensitive and sobby, that's OK, other times they are bossy, that's OK too..  they are vey good friends indeed, always at the end of the phone for each other... ended up helping to drain a tank of diesel / petrol mixture from one of their husbands company cars yesterday...  that's what friends are for....

One big Happy Family


Keep smiling, you've got us!

DC 8-)

When I used to work for your company it was similar

Unfortunately, the American firm I work for seems to actively prevent such comradeship  

[cem_devecioglu]

Prioritise.

1)Look after yourself first. You can't help your son or hubby if you are
   not ok within yourself.
2)Your son is the next priority. He can't look after himself. Be there
   for him. Ref the childcare fees, have you not got a good friend that
   look after him, perhaps along with their own child, for when you
   on duty?
3)Next is hubby. The medical staff will be looking after the physical
   bits. You look after the mental side of stuff with plenty of support
   and looking after the rest of the stuff in your lives, so that he
   concentrate on getting better without any distractions.
4)Exams and studying can take a back seat for the 3 week
   recuperation period. You've got the rest of your life to attack
   them. When you are in a better frame of mind with no distractions.

You'll be ok. Just take everything one day at a time and deal with
problems as and when they arise.
Remember to look after yourself first. You'll be no use to anyone if you
don't.  

Cant say better..

Think positive, everything will go ok  

[Entwood]

You are on a training course .. speak to the Chief Instructor  ... the system will not want you to fail the course due to exterior problems.. looks bad on the Instructors. You can always do this on the QT.. informally to start ... get formal if they don't help ...

If you don't want to upset the staff directly .. have they appointed a Course Leader  ?? If so speak to him/her.

Another option might be the Admin PO/CPO  ??  They are usually experienced and may be able to "suggest" to the DO that a litle flex might be the order of the day.

Good luck any way ..

[Vamps]

is there someone further up the chain you could approach with out it looking like your telling tales or a families officer, may be

looks like someone knows the system........

dont worrie all i will do is mention it yet again to my divsional officer and then if my grades start t fail or i end up having snags of any type i will make my way to the bish, he will not patronise or belittle me and he has more power then anybody in my section. there is also a chief petty officer that i get on really well with that i can go to aswell. the only snag is i cant do ether of the above until my divisional officer f**ks up! have to use the chain of command much as i dont want to cos if i dont i get in the s**t.

royal Navy employes ssome right nobs

Along the lines of Zippo, don't you have access to a welfare/ families  officer, Sure the Navy has them, the Army do and they can help out in time of difficulty, i have had some contact with Army through work.

[psl]

my thoughts are with you and your hubby, I'm sure all will go well

[albitz]

when i was younger i made the mistake of putting job before family ,i will always regret it so can only say in the short term at least ,try to put hubby/son top of priority list,but its easier said than done sometimes,i dont envy working wives and mothers one bit.if you do end up in colchester i,ll come and bring you a cake with a file in it.

[gstylebaby]

Be strong and hope it all pans out for you.
Good luck to your hubby i'm sure it will all work out good for all of you.
 

[dbug]

Family come first!!

Good luck to both of you.

[Tommy]

Marie, I hope things are working out for you but if you really get bogged down and someone's turned out that light at the end of the tunnel pm me. My son is a RN lieutenant, based in Portsmouth at the moment - he may be able to pull some strings where they may need pulling. If he can he would and he likes bucking the system - he's my son afterall lol Anyway let me know

[smoothomega]

Hope all goes well, i'm sure he will come through it with flying colours, and just remember, you only get one life and one family but there are lots of jobs out there, so look after you and yours and worry about work when everyone is on the mend. Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery for hubby  

[SP_3.2]

HI Marie

Just to say that i hope all goes well with the opp on your husband i,m sure it will be fine. Just make sure that you look after yourself eg eat right and get rest as this can make a big diff as to how you can deal with times like this. I also find that a good 30 min walk helps me to clear my head and get things in order.

All the very best

Steve,      

[Cav9_4]

'Crossed fingers' all goes well,also wish your hubby a speedy recovery

[bob.dent]

Unfortunately Marie, this is getting to be typical of our National forces not to look after their own people when in need of support. As others have said it's ONLY a job - your priorities are YOU and your FAMILY.

I hope it all goes well with hubby's op and wish him a speedy recovery.

I know it's easier said than done but try not to stress out too much and as you well know, you'll get plenty of support on here.