By contrast the western armies operate under strict rules of engagement. I believe that at the moment the British Army in Afghanistan can only fire when fired upon, which some might say is too stringent.
I believe that your assertions Lizzie that the Western armies are bombing, strafing, maiming and killing civilians not only wrong but offensive!
War is what it is however and the civilian population always suffer as a result, this has always been so and always will be so.
What we have though is one side who try to avoid civilian casualties but yes make mistakes from time to time, and another side who hit targets indiscriminately regardless of who might get killed or injured!
Anyone who thinks that we can negotiate with such people must have graduated from the Neville Chamberlain School of Politics and International Affairs 
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I find it interesting that you bring up Vietnam Lizzie. I lived and worked in Saigon for a while and the only animosity I came across from the Vietnamese towards the Americans, were from those angry that the US left South Vietnam to it's fate. The majority of South Vietnamese saw the Americans as their defenders and protectors and hated the Northern Communists with a passion! To this day, there is a North/South divide and much bitterness and mistrust. The people of South Vietnam were treated appallingly by the Northern Communists and even now most high ranking public positions in the South, such as police chiefs, mayors etc are held by Northerners.
Drones are shooting at targets without being fired upon, with even a wedding reception being attacked, with heavy casualties, only quite recently. Other "mistaken" fire has also killed innocents on a fairly regular basis.
The local civilians killed by, I repeat, "mistaken" fire would certainly have relatives and friends who would use your word "offensive"! When war is being fought this is indeed what happens, and that is why it is wrong for western forces to be there as it always leads to animosity from those local innocents who have to pick up the pieces.
As for Vietnam, Saigon is not the whole country and is hardly representative of those districts that the main part of the appalling war was fought over. It is on record that the more the American forces attacked villages towards the North Vietnamese border, the more civilians decided to assist the Viet Cong as they saw them as the best choice in a war that was unnecessary and led to a bad situation for the Yanks. That all led to the Americans admitting defeat and pulling out, as they knew they could not continue what had become a terribly wasteful war that the American public could see no purpose in. Before you ask, I know of ex-American servicemen who are my friends that served in Vietnam and would never talk about what they experienced as they were far from happy with their country's involvement and actions. In simple terms they were ashamed.
I'm getting the feeling Lizzie that you think that NATO troops in Afghanistan are there on some sort of turkey shoot and fire at anything that moves!
To be honest I find the drone programme a little sinister, but do you think that they hit targets indiscriminately? rather than acting on intelligence from the ground that a certain target will be at a certain place at a certain time.

I guess that one of the purposes is to isolate the Taliban and Al Qaeda commanders as people will be afraid to associate with them, and this puts ordinary people between a rock and a hard place.

Offend the local Taliban commander and deal with his wrath? or run the risk of being blown to pieces by an American missile?

Going back to Vietnam.
You are quite right that Saigon isn't the whole of Vietnam and I'm sure that there were people in South Vietnam who supported the North Vietnam forces and the Viet Cong, but to assert that a majority of South Vietnamese supported them and hated the Americans would be wrong in my opinion.

And I wouldn't be at all surprised that your American friends are ashamed at the US forces action in Vietnam as they did some terrible things there, Agent Orange for one.

But the communists and Viet Cong were hardly Boy Scouts either and they did some terrible things to their own people!

One of the most surprising things for me though, was the amount of American people who now live in Vietnam (North and South) and are largely accepted and welcomed by the Vietnamese people as they are seen to be helping to develop Vietnam. Not from the war as that is ancient history to them, but from the incompetence, corruption and mismanagement of the country by the communist government for 25 years or so after the war ended.

Incidently, although Vietnam today is peaceful and relatively prosperous (some call it Little China!) it is far from free and is still ruled with an iron fist by the communists. Despite the economic reforms, if we were having this sort of conversation on a Vietnamese forum, in Vietnam, using a Vietnamese internet provider, we may well have had a knock on the door by now.....
Anyway what was that about Ankara???
