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[tigers_gonads]

My uncle past away today.
He had been suffering from dementia and bladder cancer for the last few years.
My dad who has been best mates with him since they was 15 years old is in pieces and wanting to fight every f*cker 

I don't know if i'm been a total tw*t saying this but in a way i'm glad it is all over and he is at peace now.

Its wierd but im trying to get my head round how I am supposed to feel about all this 

Lifes shite at the moment 

[flyer 0712]

Sorry to hear that matey....life is full of ups and downs and life is shite at times...however time heals all and i believe in that and you have your good memories and no one can take that away from you....not even crap life....so bear with it as it will all pass and life will become better...condolences to you and your family....

[OOMV6]

Really sorry to hear the news.

You are not supposed to feel anything in particular. You feel what you feel and nobody is in a position to argue. You cannot control these feelings. They are as they are, and you need to accept this, as do those people around you. Just be true to yourself

My father died after years of dementia back in 2006, aged just 62. It took me a few years to really grieve. It's different for everybody.
All the best.

[cleggy]

My uncle past away today.
He had been suffering from dementia and bladder cancer for the last few years.
My dad who has been best mates with him since they was 15 years old is in pieces and wanting to fight every f*cker 

I don't know if i'm been a total tw*t saying this but in a way i'm glad it is all over and he is at peace now.

Its wierd but im trying to get my head round how I am supposed to feel about all this 

Lifes shite at the moment 

I certainly don't think so, it is a brave thing to admit but shows love and affection.

Life will get better, time is a great healer and brings the good times to the fore and the shit fades away.

[Seth]

Sincere condolences to you all from the Seths.

[blackviper90210]

Sorry to hear of your loss today

As sad as it is when someone passes away, sometimes it is a blessing for those that do.   As you say, he is at peace now....


Our condolences from the BV family.

[cem_devecioglu]

sorry to hear this..     
 
please accept my condolences..
 
 
there is a time for everyone and when time is up,  we have to leave this world..  either this way or that way.. its inevitable for all of us..
 
I wish he rests in peace..

[pscocoa]

My uncle past away today.
He had been suffering from dementia and bladder cancer for the last few years.
My dad who has been best mates with him since they was 15 years old is in pieces and wanting to fight every f*cker 

I don't know if i'm been a total tw*t saying this but in a way i'm glad it is all over and he is at peace now.

Its wierd but im trying to get my head round how I am supposed to feel about all this 

Lifes shite at the moment 

Do not fell bad at the sense of relief - we are in that situation with MIL in Truro - it will be a merciful release for her to go - and everyone is of the same view - you just have to see her to see why.

[ozzycat]

sorry to hear this tg but i think he has gone to a better place no more suffering it dose take time to come to terms with it how long i cant say
i lost my dad in 1991 still not got  over it i miss him alot
but hell be up there sat on his cloud watching over you and your familys
our thoughts are with you the ozzys

[Lazydocker]

Sincere condolences to the family.

As for feeling relief... Nothing wrong with that. I watched my Aunt deteriorate with MS from "normal" life to bed ridden and unable to do anything. When she passed away I was in my early 20's and felt huge relief for her and the rest of the family.

[tigers_gonads]

Sincere condolences to the family.

As for feeling relief... Nothing wrong with that. I watched my Aunt deteriorate with MS from "normal" life to bed ridden and unable to do anything. When she passed away I was in my early 20's and felt huge relief for her and the rest of the family.

I think thats the thing with all this.
We have had to just sit back and watch while not been able to do a thing about it.

Apreciate the kind words lads 

Thank You 

[paul.lovejoy]

as echoed by previous comments TG your certainley no Tw*t any loss of life is very sad but to watch someone suffer and loose control of basic functions is very hard to deal with the sense of helplessness and the wish for it to be over quickly and find peace is what anybody would want in that situation.

Watched my farther in law pass in a similar way and my mother some years before feel for you mate but sadness turns to relife that thier suffering has ended and they are at last at peace. So i do hope you feel better and are coming to terms with it all

thoughts are with you

[jonnycool]

My wife endured a similar thing very recently when her beloved Grandad, who had suffered from dementia and had gradually deteriorated to the point where he had no idea where he was and who his close family were, had a stroke and died. She expressed her relief that it was all over, and that he was finally reunited with his lovely wife again, who had died a few years earlier.

Your father may feel differently about the situation, but there's no shame in the way you feel mate. Hope all concerned get through this ok

[Ian_D]

Sorry to hear this Steve. But like you said above - At least hes in peace now.

Take care mate.

[sealeysonic]

Sorry to hear your bad news mate....its hard on all concerned when someone passes away...mixed emotions when that person has had health issues for a few years.....and see them change from what they use to be like.....quality of life gets to a low point and sometimes `waking up asleep` might be the best thing....i use this `waking up asleep` phrase when loved ones pass away as there still with u in spirit awake in heaven.....!!