Right...
1. Pin 3 on the ecu is on the lower plug on the ECU as you lift it out of the fuse box. Bottom row, third pin from the front of the car. There is no wire at that pin, so you'll either need to fit one or locate this ecu plug from the car that the MID came from, with some loom, and add the missing socket to your plug.
2. Mine still tells me to check headlight/taillights and oil level because they're not connected. You'll need to wire them through a resistor before grounding them.
Not sure of the resistance needed, as it's not my strong point.
Better still why not connect up the ones that you can, it makes all the effort much more worth while.

new/second hand coolant bottle(sensor is built in) and a float switch for the washer bottle (rubber blank out, float switch in) and some loom with plugs

2A. brown goes to earth, red and white go to the plug on the MID.
This exercise does require making new bits of loom/running wires around the dash and through the bulkhead, sadly not quite as plug and play as it could be

HTH Al
